Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
Too clever
A lot of attractive lunch options
This is interesting in that it leads to a whole host of unintended consequences of easy abortions that I had not foreseen. The article mentions, for example, using abortion pills as birth control. I guess another problem might be if men slip abortion pills into a woman's food or if a woman falsely accuses a man of killing her child could go to prison for life. The fact pattern for the case is also interesting - here pro-choice activists didn't want to pursue it because of the fact pattern even though the fact pattern doesn't show her doing things that would undermine her case's strength. It's just gross. Also the reasoning seems suspect: "He maintained that, since it was so hard for McCormack to obtain a legal abortion, it was unjust to charge her for having an illegal one. " I think there are rights that are hard to obtain that you are excused from prosecution when you take them illegally. Like food, shelter, hospital care. I mean I guess they invalidated the law but you're still supposed to obey the law - not break it and sue later.
a burden we must bear
hmm maybe we should film some footage in our world travels...
Dave Chappelle does empathy
A candidate for our slow song - though it's not that slow.
Responses
1. Ok, I haven't finished watching all of this but yes, there will be grievances!
2. The interesting thing about these hitpieces was that I thought Rubio was a throwaway candidate with no real chance of winning. This is making him seem like a contender. Also, is there a stereotype about Hispanics being bad drivers or is it just Asians?
3. Aren't these similar pitfalls to homosexual lifestyles - like belief it's a mental disorder, or increasing likelihood of suicide? Maybe the numbers will change with greater acceptance? Also consider: the upcoming battle between feminists and trans activists. I'll get the popcorn!
4. I thought it interesting that more half-Asian people identified as mixed than other racially mixed people. Does that mean Asian culture has less of a lure than black or Hispanic culture? Or does it just not provide any benefits to consider yourself Asian, as opposed to considering yourself black of Hispanic.
5. I guess it makes sense but isn't he being a little disingenuous by how he categorizes the "three things?" Like "awesome products" can't be one but Amazon can be best at "retail."
Responses to responses!
1. True. Everything can be considered somewhat motivated by insecurity. That's what they teach us about selling stuff! Everyone wants to do a good job at the presidency though - no one likes being reviled. Wait no, no politician likes being reviled.
2. As long as bear and bunny know the other is always supporting them, I think we'll get pretty far.
3. I never really understood the allure of popping bubble wrap. Picking scabs though...
4. I don't think i'm the stereotypical ENFP when it comes to money. If I were, I wouldn't have any.
5. Yeah I hate how we're all "they're so young and their prefrontal cortices are not fully formed yet!" It means you make mistakes and it's obviously easier if you have tons of money. It might be hard to balance our sympathy for rich young kids with middle class young kids who sign up for too many student loans. They're both young and stupid.
R2r2r
1. Is that ten commandments thing real?
R2r2r2r
2. I think we're agreed so long as it's not discretionary, it's probably ok.
This is interesting in that it leads to a whole host of unintended consequences of easy abortions that I had not foreseen. The article mentions, for example, using abortion pills as birth control. I guess another problem might be if men slip abortion pills into a woman's food or if a woman falsely accuses a man of killing her child could go to prison for life. The fact pattern for the case is also interesting - here pro-choice activists didn't want to pursue it because of the fact pattern even though the fact pattern doesn't show her doing things that would undermine her case's strength. It's just gross. Also the reasoning seems suspect: "He maintained that, since it was so hard for McCormack to obtain a legal abortion, it was unjust to charge her for having an illegal one. " I think there are rights that are hard to obtain that you are excused from prosecution when you take them illegally. Like food, shelter, hospital care. I mean I guess they invalidated the law but you're still supposed to obey the law - not break it and sue later.
a burden we must bear
hmm maybe we should film some footage in our world travels...
Dave Chappelle does empathy
Responses
1. Ok, I haven't finished watching all of this but yes, there will be grievances!
2. The interesting thing about these hitpieces was that I thought Rubio was a throwaway candidate with no real chance of winning. This is making him seem like a contender. Also, is there a stereotype about Hispanics being bad drivers or is it just Asians?
3. Aren't these similar pitfalls to homosexual lifestyles - like belief it's a mental disorder, or increasing likelihood of suicide? Maybe the numbers will change with greater acceptance? Also consider: the upcoming battle between feminists and trans activists. I'll get the popcorn!
4. I thought it interesting that more half-Asian people identified as mixed than other racially mixed people. Does that mean Asian culture has less of a lure than black or Hispanic culture? Or does it just not provide any benefits to consider yourself Asian, as opposed to considering yourself black of Hispanic.
5. I guess it makes sense but isn't he being a little disingenuous by how he categorizes the "three things?" Like "awesome products" can't be one but Amazon can be best at "retail."
Responses to responses!
1. True. Everything can be considered somewhat motivated by insecurity. That's what they teach us about selling stuff! Everyone wants to do a good job at the presidency though - no one likes being reviled. Wait no, no politician likes being reviled.
2. As long as bear and bunny know the other is always supporting them, I think we'll get pretty far.
3. I never really understood the allure of popping bubble wrap. Picking scabs though...
4. I don't think i'm the stereotypical ENFP when it comes to money. If I were, I wouldn't have any.
5. Yeah I hate how we're all "they're so young and their prefrontal cortices are not fully formed yet!" It means you make mistakes and it's obviously easier if you have tons of money. It might be hard to balance our sympathy for rich young kids with middle class young kids who sign up for too many student loans. They're both young and stupid.
R2r2r
1. Is that ten commandments thing real?
R2r2r2r
2. I think we're agreed so long as it's not discretionary, it's probably ok.
Monday, June 15, 2015
Getting Angry
Even though I mostly expect this to end up in the "grievances" portion of our talk, I laughed too hard not to post it.
This is the worst hitpiece ever.
I mentioned this WSJ op-ed on transgender surgery. I would be curious to hear a reasoned rebuttal from psychiatrists somewhere. (I'm probably not going to look for it, though.)
Racial identification for multi-racial people is apparently very complicated.
Here is a heretical question. In my view, the world is moving away from PCs anyway, mostly through the advent of tablets and such, and this might be inevitable. But why not keep making the Mac Pro? That thing is awesome!
Responses:
1. The insecurity point is interesting, but I'm not sure that I buy it as informing the political decisions made by the cited presidents. It smacks of pop-psychology and confirmation bias (i.e. no mention of the other dozens of presidents throughout history), not to mention a focus on presidential personality over the circumstances and political realities surrounding the individuals in office.
2. The first one makes sense, though it would make more sense if we lived together (or at least in the same place). The second one also makes sense in that anger is easier than the underlying feelings. My therapist mentioned the fourth one (in connection with the second one) when I mentioned that we had some tension about our cancelled trip to Montreal. I asked him to help me think about the conflict, and he said that it's about the feelings evoked, not the particular facts and circumstances (not at all obvious to me at first). The third one also makes sense, but I always try to text you and respond to your texts when I'm working late - not just because I want to talk to you, but also because I want you to know that, when I'm at work, I'm still here for you.
3. No! Also, I don't really buy this study because popping bubble wrap is fun regardless of your mood.
4. It's accurate for me. Does yours seem accurate for you? I wouldn't think so, or else you've just managed to avoid Ponzi scheme proposals.
5. Yawn... I want to know about a real trust fund baby! But in all seriousness, it's an interesting perspective. It's very hard for some people to feel sympathy for those who have more and struggle, but people forget that life is hard because of the decisions we have to make and the satisfaction we have to find from faith, productivity, good friends, and loved ones. Also, the bit about the prefrontal cortex is also relevant to the Broke documentary and athletes.
R2R:
1. I think it's a good idea too, but it is hard to feel comfortable setting those kinds of boundaries if you are junior or new, or if your bosses or superiors continue to make unreasonable demands, with your job seemingly hanging in the balance. For me, I've always thought that some number of years paying my dues would lead to the promised land of either job fulfillment or riches (or both).
4. Yes? But we've already discussed it at length, so you don't have to. :)
5. It all has the sheen of people with political ends. Take whatever story and spin it to your position.
R2R2R:
2. I think the best way to look at it is that she is getting a non-discretionary (with respect to her husband) share of the (possibly discretionary, with respect to her husband's boss) bonus her husband receives from his job. This is probably yet another example of critics latching onto the appearance rather than the substance. In every example that I read, she got a pre-determined cut of the bonus, and the only reason for variation was the performance of her husband's company. It's only demeaning if it's discretionary from the perspective of her husband, i.e. if he decides at year end how much money she deserves.
5. Both?
B
This is the worst hitpiece ever.
I mentioned this WSJ op-ed on transgender surgery. I would be curious to hear a reasoned rebuttal from psychiatrists somewhere. (I'm probably not going to look for it, though.)
Racial identification for multi-racial people is apparently very complicated.
Here is a heretical question. In my view, the world is moving away from PCs anyway, mostly through the advent of tablets and such, and this might be inevitable. But why not keep making the Mac Pro? That thing is awesome!
Responses:
1. The insecurity point is interesting, but I'm not sure that I buy it as informing the political decisions made by the cited presidents. It smacks of pop-psychology and confirmation bias (i.e. no mention of the other dozens of presidents throughout history), not to mention a focus on presidential personality over the circumstances and political realities surrounding the individuals in office.
2. The first one makes sense, though it would make more sense if we lived together (or at least in the same place). The second one also makes sense in that anger is easier than the underlying feelings. My therapist mentioned the fourth one (in connection with the second one) when I mentioned that we had some tension about our cancelled trip to Montreal. I asked him to help me think about the conflict, and he said that it's about the feelings evoked, not the particular facts and circumstances (not at all obvious to me at first). The third one also makes sense, but I always try to text you and respond to your texts when I'm working late - not just because I want to talk to you, but also because I want you to know that, when I'm at work, I'm still here for you.
3. No! Also, I don't really buy this study because popping bubble wrap is fun regardless of your mood.
4. It's accurate for me. Does yours seem accurate for you? I wouldn't think so, or else you've just managed to avoid Ponzi scheme proposals.
5. Yawn... I want to know about a real trust fund baby! But in all seriousness, it's an interesting perspective. It's very hard for some people to feel sympathy for those who have more and struggle, but people forget that life is hard because of the decisions we have to make and the satisfaction we have to find from faith, productivity, good friends, and loved ones. Also, the bit about the prefrontal cortex is also relevant to the Broke documentary and athletes.
R2R:
1. I think it's a good idea too, but it is hard to feel comfortable setting those kinds of boundaries if you are junior or new, or if your bosses or superiors continue to make unreasonable demands, with your job seemingly hanging in the balance. For me, I've always thought that some number of years paying my dues would lead to the promised land of either job fulfillment or riches (or both).
4. Yes? But we've already discussed it at length, so you don't have to. :)
5. It all has the sheen of people with political ends. Take whatever story and spin it to your position.
R2R2R:
2. I think the best way to look at it is that she is getting a non-discretionary (with respect to her husband) share of the (possibly discretionary, with respect to her husband's boss) bonus her husband receives from his job. This is probably yet another example of critics latching onto the appearance rather than the substance. In every example that I read, she got a pre-determined cut of the bonus, and the only reason for variation was the performance of her husband's company. It's only demeaning if it's discretionary from the perspective of her husband, i.e. if he decides at year end how much money she deserves.
5. Both?
B
Monday, June 8, 2015
Money money money
this article, though a little annoying, actually makes an interesting point. it's also a somewhat worrying point.also, Marco Rubio's finances are a bit of a worry - though I guess he's a longshot so it doesn't matter?
hey, this seems like it could be useful. i found the site on goop as a place for fathers to congregate and rehash just as moms do. It's kinda a nice idea.
should i be less cute? on the other hand, it does explain our habitual squeezing.
Does this seem accurate to you?
a peek into the life of a trust fund baby
Responses
1. this is so "lean in" in that chapter about setting your own boundaries. I guess it's a little paternalistic - like maybe people can judge how much they should rest themselves - but then again, they're probably just trying to keep up with everyone else. I think it's a good idea.
2. It's a remarkable journey. I kinda wonder if she's getting more press than Jessica Simpson re her business. But Jessica Alba is better looking and she did a career that was a little less well-trod by celebrities.
3. It's tough! I read that article in the paper and I have to say - I admire that vomiting guy's pride. Millennials seem to just give up when the nausea strikes!
4. Can I write an essay about why this list is completely wrong? It would probably start with "what is authentic" and "Given that definition of 'authentic' can we really trust two Vietnamese owners of a filed Chinese restaurant to give us the correct definitions of authentic Chinese food?" I will say that probably no Chinese restaurant should serve Crab Rangoon but maybe the restaurant saw someone else doing it and thought it would be popular. I doubt Chinese restaurant owners would stick to authenticity when there's money to be made. I think most Chinese places I've been to hit at least a few of these "red flags." (A Chinese restaurant without a dragon motif is just a Chinese restaurant that didn't have an interior decorating budget. Or is waiting for the shipment of gold dragons to come in from China).
5. It's very interesting and I think the point is correct that some people want publicity for this case and those are the people who we should be more skeptical of. The Jonathan Perkins idea. But the whole thing is so confusing now. Yeah, the facts don't add up but isn't there some rape mantra like "rape victims' stories often don't make any sense" or rape victims often don't act in sensible ways after a rape." There was some of that in mattress girl's story. The whole rape lore is being expanded probably to cover for these stories. "Sometimes rape victims make up other rape stories that aren't true but they are just repressing the real rape story."
R2R
I dunno. I think there are plenty of bunny and bear pictures in contention for the coveted prize of being our logo!
1. They were delicious!
2. I guess there was a follow-up in Slate that suggested that the husband as employer was the real place of contention. It's confusing though because yes, you could look at it that way and if you look at it that way, then it might be demeaning. So the answer is - she shouldn't get the bonus because it's demeaning. But if you don't think it's demeaning, then she would get the money. So does this mean that it's ok to be demeaning so long as she's better off in the long-term? Is there a solution where she could get the money and it's not demeaning?
3.True. But a lot of restaurants will have to work with the odds and ends if all the other restaurants are serving the prime cuts.
4. =D
5. principles? or resignation?
r2r2r
1. Yeah, but we don't really infantilize Asians.
hey, this seems like it could be useful. i found the site on goop as a place for fathers to congregate and rehash just as moms do. It's kinda a nice idea.
should i be less cute? on the other hand, it does explain our habitual squeezing.
Does this seem accurate to you?
a peek into the life of a trust fund baby
Responses
1. this is so "lean in" in that chapter about setting your own boundaries. I guess it's a little paternalistic - like maybe people can judge how much they should rest themselves - but then again, they're probably just trying to keep up with everyone else. I think it's a good idea.
2. It's a remarkable journey. I kinda wonder if she's getting more press than Jessica Simpson re her business. But Jessica Alba is better looking and she did a career that was a little less well-trod by celebrities.
3. It's tough! I read that article in the paper and I have to say - I admire that vomiting guy's pride. Millennials seem to just give up when the nausea strikes!
4. Can I write an essay about why this list is completely wrong? It would probably start with "what is authentic" and "Given that definition of 'authentic' can we really trust two Vietnamese owners of a filed Chinese restaurant to give us the correct definitions of authentic Chinese food?" I will say that probably no Chinese restaurant should serve Crab Rangoon but maybe the restaurant saw someone else doing it and thought it would be popular. I doubt Chinese restaurant owners would stick to authenticity when there's money to be made. I think most Chinese places I've been to hit at least a few of these "red flags." (A Chinese restaurant without a dragon motif is just a Chinese restaurant that didn't have an interior decorating budget. Or is waiting for the shipment of gold dragons to come in from China).
5. It's very interesting and I think the point is correct that some people want publicity for this case and those are the people who we should be more skeptical of. The Jonathan Perkins idea. But the whole thing is so confusing now. Yeah, the facts don't add up but isn't there some rape mantra like "rape victims' stories often don't make any sense" or rape victims often don't act in sensible ways after a rape." There was some of that in mattress girl's story. The whole rape lore is being expanded probably to cover for these stories. "Sometimes rape victims make up other rape stories that aren't true but they are just repressing the real rape story."
R2R
I dunno. I think there are plenty of bunny and bear pictures in contention for the coveted prize of being our logo!
1. They were delicious!
2. I guess there was a follow-up in Slate that suggested that the husband as employer was the real place of contention. It's confusing though because yes, you could look at it that way and if you look at it that way, then it might be demeaning. So the answer is - she shouldn't get the bonus because it's demeaning. But if you don't think it's demeaning, then she would get the money. So does this mean that it's ok to be demeaning so long as she's better off in the long-term? Is there a solution where she could get the money and it's not demeaning?
3.True. But a lot of restaurants will have to work with the odds and ends if all the other restaurants are serving the prime cuts.
4. =D
5. principles? or resignation?
r2r2r
1. Yeah, but we don't really infantilize Asians.
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
Reruns
I don't know if you read this article, but I'm posting it here just in case you have any comments.
And you've heard of this, but it was still a very interesting read.
Maybe we shouldn't work out together...
What do you think of this list?
Here is a question that anti-campus rape activists don't seem to be asking.
Responses:
That picture should be our logo!
1. I might have a delicious surprise for you when you arrive...
2. I don't see anything wrong with this, as long as the couple feels okay with it. If you have a single-earner household, it's obvious that the woman is financially dependent on the husband, and it's not as if she doesn't have access to any money beyond the wife bonus (i.e. she uses his earnings for household necessities in addition to stuff for herself, perhaps this being considered the wifely salary). I personally would want my wife just to consult me on purchases above a certain threshold (as I would with her) with no agreed-upon maximum, but then again, maybe there's something to the idea of not having to get permission (or even give notice) when you see that luxury item you want to buy. Also, in the case of the second article, it sounds as if the husband and wife each get 20%, with the rest going to joint expenses (or the accounts set up for such purpose). That seems perfectly reasonable.
Perhaps the real issue is that the term "wife bonus" makes it seem as if the wife is working for the husband, and that the husband has full discretion to determine the size and scope of the bonus. But I suspect that most loving husbands are more than generous with their wives when actual finances allow them to be, and if a husband is not, then there are other red flags in the marriage.
3. The stuff about wastefulness and odd food is really good. It reminds me of how in some places bakeries can't donate their food to homeless shelters because of weird local ordinances. That said, as intriguing as this is, let's just make sure that we don't take this too far. Let's use more of the vegetable or animal, but broccoli florets and pork tenderloin are still better than broccoli stems and pig ears.
4. Dee-lightful. The only thing not delightful about that was that Instagram is blocked on my work computer.
5. The only thing I noticed even a little was that Don was more conventionally dressed than the other Esalen residents (except for the guy he hugged, and I sorta noticed that too), but the rest went sailing way over my head. The comparison at the end showing the different people at Esalen who "showed up" in the ad was inspired. That probably confirms that Don wrote the ad (even aside from the fact that Matthew Weiner has since confirmed as much), but that's an insane level of detail.
6. I admire this man's principles, even if taking the long view even once would have made him wealthy. I hope he got $1 million at auction.
R2R:
1. This calls back to an era where we didn't infantilize poor people or people from other countries. We taught them to fish, and now they own an entire industry.
7. I think so, though obviously not by you. That said, it took me a few tries to understand the difference in picture quality.
B
And you've heard of this, but it was still a very interesting read.
Maybe we shouldn't work out together...
What do you think of this list?
Here is a question that anti-campus rape activists don't seem to be asking.
Responses:
That picture should be our logo!
1. I might have a delicious surprise for you when you arrive...
2. I don't see anything wrong with this, as long as the couple feels okay with it. If you have a single-earner household, it's obvious that the woman is financially dependent on the husband, and it's not as if she doesn't have access to any money beyond the wife bonus (i.e. she uses his earnings for household necessities in addition to stuff for herself, perhaps this being considered the wifely salary). I personally would want my wife just to consult me on purchases above a certain threshold (as I would with her) with no agreed-upon maximum, but then again, maybe there's something to the idea of not having to get permission (or even give notice) when you see that luxury item you want to buy. Also, in the case of the second article, it sounds as if the husband and wife each get 20%, with the rest going to joint expenses (or the accounts set up for such purpose). That seems perfectly reasonable.
Perhaps the real issue is that the term "wife bonus" makes it seem as if the wife is working for the husband, and that the husband has full discretion to determine the size and scope of the bonus. But I suspect that most loving husbands are more than generous with their wives when actual finances allow them to be, and if a husband is not, then there are other red flags in the marriage.
3. The stuff about wastefulness and odd food is really good. It reminds me of how in some places bakeries can't donate their food to homeless shelters because of weird local ordinances. That said, as intriguing as this is, let's just make sure that we don't take this too far. Let's use more of the vegetable or animal, but broccoli florets and pork tenderloin are still better than broccoli stems and pig ears.
4. Dee-lightful. The only thing not delightful about that was that Instagram is blocked on my work computer.
5. The only thing I noticed even a little was that Don was more conventionally dressed than the other Esalen residents (except for the guy he hugged, and I sorta noticed that too), but the rest went sailing way over my head. The comparison at the end showing the different people at Esalen who "showed up" in the ad was inspired. That probably confirms that Don wrote the ad (even aside from the fact that Matthew Weiner has since confirmed as much), but that's an insane level of detail.
6. I admire this man's principles, even if taking the long view even once would have made him wealthy. I hope he got $1 million at auction.
R2R:
1. This calls back to an era where we didn't infantilize poor people or people from other countries. We taught them to fish, and now they own an entire industry.
7. I think so, though obviously not by you. That said, it took me a few tries to understand the difference in picture quality.
B
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