the good stories edition

paying it forward

what would you save if your apartment was burning? i thought about this for a minute. I would throw my dresses, bear and penguin off the balcony because they won't break. i would grab my luggage (to hold everything), hard drive, computer, purse (which i hope would contain my phones), coat, chargers, glasses, a pair of shoes and favorite umbrella. It took me a long time to pick and choose all those dresses and I love them all. I would hate replacing them. *My passport and photo albums are at my parents' house. My favorite cards from Bear are in my office.

quora is asking all the right questions

about writing your own good stories - because you may have a good memory now, but will you always?

this reminded me of my brother

ok one bad story but well reported. all you ever wanted to know about rape myths

responses
1. i saw that story on the metro express and instantly straightened my head a little. i also tend to go on back straightening binges with my family but they never listen. not for long anyway.

2. i would've thought cross college was upset that there was someone saying the pro-abortion side at all but upset that they were just men? that's a bridge a little too far.also what is "fag-end"?

i think there might be a life cycle to these types of things. people have freedom and then they're so used to freedom that they take it for granted and desire comfort. comfort gets taken too far so that it's basically censorship and we have a hong kong situation. hopefully we can get freedom back after that but at least we'll want it and appreciate it then.

3. the lawyer describes herself as a feminist but against all these feminist views about college tribunals on sexual assault. the word either has a negative or no meaning at this point. however, missing from this article is the idea that maybe schools shouldn't be handling this crime at all, which i think is the ultimately correct solution.

4. karen, the lady who hosts community group,was rapt with attention to the uva scandal because her son went there. it's quite a thing for mothers to be upset for their sons now (because apparently there are some women who care about the boys' side in rape stories). i expect much more pushback along these lines.

5. i liked the idea of calling their mothers but yes, i read a quote: "wisdom is knowing what things to overlook" and online harassers is definitely one of them.

6. i'm more of a satisficer i guess. i got a 41. But i do check all the radio stations every time!

7. dogs are always a good idea.

8. maybe people who look bad in slow motion are jealous. but they probably also look bad in normal motion.

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4. i think going to a movie is different. it can be more akin to reading a book. it can very much be a solitary activity though i guess society would have you think it's a group activity. you watch movies and tv alone in your room. the movie theatre is just a more expensive way of doing that. =P

5. yeah the guy is just a rando who was publicizing his blog on comment boards. sketchy true but he does have his sources in order and this is the most comprehensive account by far.

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Yes going to court and reliving the past isn't fun but it still seems questionable to me that so few rape victims do it. that liz securro person prosecuted her rape guy when he confessed in a letter some 20/30 years later. all these cosby attackers are reliving their memories. i can understand a few women doing this but that so many are expected to avoid court - many more than other traumatizing crimes? i just don't think it all adds up. maybe there just aren't as many rapes as people think there are.