because we certainly will have our vacation!
more evidence that we know nothing about nutrition
i'm still catching up on this torture memo stuff. one of the associates at my firm said she was accosted by a person with a microphone and camera and asked her opinions on the memo. i think she was profiled for being a dressed up person on k st.
this was interesting - specifically that saying "hair" shows neuroticism. but i can kinda see it. and this seemed like therapy breakthrough - but perhaps it's only one of the reasons i never get anything done. also the enfp-ness of me.
this coming to an amazon near you
so when artists make and deliver it for free, it's this amazing and legendary bull and we pay for all that crappy art in and around charlottesville?
this boy is great. i don't think constantine can do this. but the real question is - is this only on theroot because he's black? would this story not have been covered otherwise? (granted, it's not exactly a fancy international news story but it's the kind of thing that is clickbait for so many outlets).
a frugal recipe to try out.
some anecdotes about the original white meat
the new diet fad
responses
1. i'm making a recipe off that site tonight. but i learned that it doesn't actually take that long so i will have to find a recipe for tougher meat to try later.
2. that's not really applicable to either of us but i understand his sentiment. of course, he could also be very wrong if the s&p has a down few years.
3. this seems to be the right way to approach the uva story. although jezebel is still twisting it its way as mightily as it can. feminists's need to control the story, every and any story, even if it looks like it won't help them in the long run - looks as if they're really covering something up. if campus sexual assault is as big a problem as they say it is, then it shouldn't be a problem finding another story. so maybe feminists don't even believe the stuff that is coming out of their mouths?
btw wapo and slate have done an excellent job with coverage of the rape issue. maybe wsj has too but i can't read any of their articles!
4. it's cute and i definitely starting noticing when quarterbacks clapped or congratulated the other side for whatever reasons during sunday's game.
r2r
2. i mean, i'd throw some cushions out first so they could land on them.
4. social media doesn't write my stories. in any case, i feel like my best stories are my dreams and of my childhood.
R2R2R2R2R2R2r:
i believe that it is a bridge too far to suggest that liz seccurro's story shows a rape culture 30 years after it happened. i'm not convinced it's a rape culture 30 years ago so much as an inept administrator and police. it doesn't appear that people are protecting a random rapist or saying rape is ok. it doesn't even say that the frats condoned rape as we don't really know if she was gang raped. it's not enough to point to a few bad apples in an incident and call it a culture. but i guess this is jackie's last stand? the last chance feminists have of twisting the story and hoping that no one notices the big holes here - that this story is too old and anecdotal to represent a culture.
Monday, December 22, 2014
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Good Ideas
Crockpots are quite versatile - here are some recipe ideas.
This is an interesting counterpoint to the idea of paying your loans off as quickly as possible. It's something I've thought about (given the current interest rates at below 4%), though having a $1,757/month loan payment is a bit debilitating on a non-biglaw salary. The amounts that these kids are paying are chump change...
This is a good way to think about being anti-rape and wanting to do something about it, understanding the substantial difficulties in proving rape in court, and nonetheless being dismayed at the holes in the UVA story. Most people are anti-rape but also pro-truth. It would be nice if feminist activists realized that about the vast majority of UVA students (or people generally) following this story.
I love how confused everyone is by Andrew Luck's "trash talking."
Responses:
1. That's a nice idea. I hope that the recipients end up participating (i.e. paying it forward) as well.
2. Oh no! Make sure bear and penguin bring their emergency parachutes!
3. Does this mean I can get a puppy? What if I come home and play with him during lunch?
4. It's a nice idea. I wonder whether social media is doing the job for us, though.
5. What a sad story... This reminds me of my little brother, though he's not quite there yet.
6. This article hit all the right notes. I fear that people are more interested in amassing evidence for their position these days than the truth.
R2R:
2. It's like the tail-end of something, with a connotation of said end being in poor shape. But your point about freedom and security is apt - it's a constant tension, and I think many in our generation have experienced mostly the pitfalls of freedom (e.g. freedom to fail, freedom to take out thousands in loans, freedom of others not to hire you).
3. The problem is that feminists who believe that feminism equals particular choices (as opposed to those who believe that feminism equals choice in general) are dominating the stage right now. Feminists in the latter category are starting to speak up, though, and that's a good thing. By the way, I have always contended that having schools trying rape (even if the punishment is just expulsion rather than jail) is a bad idea. Schools are bad at it, and their motives are either reputational (i.e. they don't want to be known as the rape school, so they suppress and deter women from going through with it) or monetary (i.e. they don't want to lose federal funding for being in violation of Title IX, so they become too eager to convict to show that they're serious about rape).
R2R2R2R2R2R:
The woman who was gang raped 30 years ago wrote about her experience separately. Based on the article, she tried to pursue criminal charges but UVA questioned the veracity of her claim based on faulty assumptions about why she was seeking to press charges (which is obviously insensitive, prejudicial, and wrong), and then fed her misinformation about jurisdiction (claiming that the Charlottesville Police had none). Neither issue exists anymore (for all its faults, the new system is accommodating to the victim's concerns and in fact gives her the option (for better or worse) of going to the police), and but for these issues justice may have been served a lot earlier, and perhaps against all of the guilty parties instead of just the one who confessed. If that's true, then what more do we have to learn from this anecdote? It seems unlikely to prove that there's a rape culture within frats without more proven incidents like this one, and the issues that we can glean from her story seem to have been addressed at least somewhat successfully. What is the point of suggesting a "rape culture" based on this story?
B
This is an interesting counterpoint to the idea of paying your loans off as quickly as possible. It's something I've thought about (given the current interest rates at below 4%), though having a $1,757/month loan payment is a bit debilitating on a non-biglaw salary. The amounts that these kids are paying are chump change...
This is a good way to think about being anti-rape and wanting to do something about it, understanding the substantial difficulties in proving rape in court, and nonetheless being dismayed at the holes in the UVA story. Most people are anti-rape but also pro-truth. It would be nice if feminist activists realized that about the vast majority of UVA students (or people generally) following this story.
I love how confused everyone is by Andrew Luck's "trash talking."
Responses:
1. That's a nice idea. I hope that the recipients end up participating (i.e. paying it forward) as well.
2. Oh no! Make sure bear and penguin bring their emergency parachutes!
3. Does this mean I can get a puppy? What if I come home and play with him during lunch?
4. It's a nice idea. I wonder whether social media is doing the job for us, though.
5. What a sad story... This reminds me of my little brother, though he's not quite there yet.
6. This article hit all the right notes. I fear that people are more interested in amassing evidence for their position these days than the truth.
R2R:
2. It's like the tail-end of something, with a connotation of said end being in poor shape. But your point about freedom and security is apt - it's a constant tension, and I think many in our generation have experienced mostly the pitfalls of freedom (e.g. freedom to fail, freedom to take out thousands in loans, freedom of others not to hire you).
3. The problem is that feminists who believe that feminism equals particular choices (as opposed to those who believe that feminism equals choice in general) are dominating the stage right now. Feminists in the latter category are starting to speak up, though, and that's a good thing. By the way, I have always contended that having schools trying rape (even if the punishment is just expulsion rather than jail) is a bad idea. Schools are bad at it, and their motives are either reputational (i.e. they don't want to be known as the rape school, so they suppress and deter women from going through with it) or monetary (i.e. they don't want to lose federal funding for being in violation of Title IX, so they become too eager to convict to show that they're serious about rape).
R2R2R2R2R2R:
The woman who was gang raped 30 years ago wrote about her experience separately. Based on the article, she tried to pursue criminal charges but UVA questioned the veracity of her claim based on faulty assumptions about why she was seeking to press charges (which is obviously insensitive, prejudicial, and wrong), and then fed her misinformation about jurisdiction (claiming that the Charlottesville Police had none). Neither issue exists anymore (for all its faults, the new system is accommodating to the victim's concerns and in fact gives her the option (for better or worse) of going to the police), and but for these issues justice may have been served a lot earlier, and perhaps against all of the guilty parties instead of just the one who confessed. If that's true, then what more do we have to learn from this anecdote? It seems unlikely to prove that there's a rape culture within frats without more proven incidents like this one, and the issues that we can glean from her story seem to have been addressed at least somewhat successfully. What is the point of suggesting a "rape culture" based on this story?
B
Friday, December 12, 2014
the good stories edition
paying it forward
what would you save if your apartment was burning? i thought about this for a minute. I would throw my dresses, bear and penguin off the balcony because they won't break. i would grab my luggage (to hold everything), hard drive, computer, purse (which i hope would contain my phones), coat, chargers, glasses, a pair of shoes and favorite umbrella. It took me a long time to pick and choose all those dresses and I love them all. I would hate replacing them. *My passport and photo albums are at my parents' house. My favorite cards from Bear are in my office.
quora is asking all the right questions
about writing your own good stories - because you may have a good memory now, but will you always?
this reminded me of my brother
ok one bad story but well reported. all you ever wanted to know about rape myths
responses
1. i saw that story on the metro express and instantly straightened my head a little. i also tend to go on back straightening binges with my family but they never listen. not for long anyway.
2. i would've thought cross college was upset that there was someone saying the pro-abortion side at all but upset that they were just men? that's a bridge a little too far.also what is "fag-end"?
i think there might be a life cycle to these types of things. people have freedom and then they're so used to freedom that they take it for granted and desire comfort. comfort gets taken too far so that it's basically censorship and we have a hong kong situation. hopefully we can get freedom back after that but at least we'll want it and appreciate it then.
3. the lawyer describes herself as a feminist but against all these feminist views about college tribunals on sexual assault. the word either has a negative or no meaning at this point. however, missing from this article is the idea that maybe schools shouldn't be handling this crime at all, which i think is the ultimately correct solution.
4. karen, the lady who hosts community group,was rapt with attention to the uva scandal because her son went there. it's quite a thing for mothers to be upset for their sons now (because apparently there are some women who care about the boys' side in rape stories). i expect much more pushback along these lines.
5. i liked the idea of calling their mothers but yes, i read a quote: "wisdom is knowing what things to overlook" and online harassers is definitely one of them.
6. i'm more of a satisficer i guess. i got a 41. But i do check all the radio stations every time!
7. dogs are always a good idea.
8. maybe people who look bad in slow motion are jealous. but they probably also look bad in normal motion.
r2r
4. i think going to a movie is different. it can be more akin to reading a book. it can very much be a solitary activity though i guess society would have you think it's a group activity. you watch movies and tv alone in your room. the movie theatre is just a more expensive way of doing that. =P
5. yeah the guy is just a rando who was publicizing his blog on comment boards. sketchy true but he does have his sources in order and this is the most comprehensive account by far.
R2R2R2R2r
Yes going to court and reliving the past isn't fun but it still seems questionable to me that so few rape victims do it. that liz securro person prosecuted her rape guy when he confessed in a letter some 20/30 years later. all these cosby attackers are reliving their memories. i can understand a few women doing this but that so many are expected to avoid court - many more than other traumatizing crimes? i just don't think it all adds up. maybe there just aren't as many rapes as people think there are.
what would you save if your apartment was burning? i thought about this for a minute. I would throw my dresses, bear and penguin off the balcony because they won't break. i would grab my luggage (to hold everything), hard drive, computer, purse (which i hope would contain my phones), coat, chargers, glasses, a pair of shoes and favorite umbrella. It took me a long time to pick and choose all those dresses and I love them all. I would hate replacing them. *My passport and photo albums are at my parents' house. My favorite cards from Bear are in my office.
quora is asking all the right questions
about writing your own good stories - because you may have a good memory now, but will you always?
this reminded me of my brother
ok one bad story but well reported. all you ever wanted to know about rape myths
responses
1. i saw that story on the metro express and instantly straightened my head a little. i also tend to go on back straightening binges with my family but they never listen. not for long anyway.
2. i would've thought cross college was upset that there was someone saying the pro-abortion side at all but upset that they were just men? that's a bridge a little too far.also what is "fag-end"?
i think there might be a life cycle to these types of things. people have freedom and then they're so used to freedom that they take it for granted and desire comfort. comfort gets taken too far so that it's basically censorship and we have a hong kong situation. hopefully we can get freedom back after that but at least we'll want it and appreciate it then.
3. the lawyer describes herself as a feminist but against all these feminist views about college tribunals on sexual assault. the word either has a negative or no meaning at this point. however, missing from this article is the idea that maybe schools shouldn't be handling this crime at all, which i think is the ultimately correct solution.
4. karen, the lady who hosts community group,was rapt with attention to the uva scandal because her son went there. it's quite a thing for mothers to be upset for their sons now (because apparently there are some women who care about the boys' side in rape stories). i expect much more pushback along these lines.
5. i liked the idea of calling their mothers but yes, i read a quote: "wisdom is knowing what things to overlook" and online harassers is definitely one of them.
6. i'm more of a satisficer i guess. i got a 41. But i do check all the radio stations every time!
7. dogs are always a good idea.
8. maybe people who look bad in slow motion are jealous. but they probably also look bad in normal motion.
r2r
4. i think going to a movie is different. it can be more akin to reading a book. it can very much be a solitary activity though i guess society would have you think it's a group activity. you watch movies and tv alone in your room. the movie theatre is just a more expensive way of doing that. =P
5. yeah the guy is just a rando who was publicizing his blog on comment boards. sketchy true but he does have his sources in order and this is the most comprehensive account by far.
R2R2R2R2r
Yes going to court and reliving the past isn't fun but it still seems questionable to me that so few rape victims do it. that liz securro person prosecuted her rape guy when he confessed in a letter some 20/30 years later. all these cosby attackers are reliving their memories. i can understand a few women doing this but that so many are expected to avoid court - many more than other traumatizing crimes? i just don't think it all adds up. maybe there just aren't as many rapes as people think there are.
Monday, December 8, 2014
Backlash
When I read this, my neck immediately started hurting.
This is a disheartening trend, but at least people are talking about it. For now...
Speaking of disheartening trends, people are starting to push back here as well.
I expect more pushback along these lines.
And this one is long overdue.
Which one are you? My score was 38 (out of a possible 91), which would put me in the 30th percentile and pretty close to being a satisficer.
This is such a good idea.
These stories are always good for a face palm.
Responses:
1. That makes a lot of sense. I'm going to try these things.
2. Adorbs.
3. Adorbs: Part 2.
4. All good points. But for me it's less the social anxiety of it and more the notion that going to the movies is a social experience. I'm similarly reluctant to go to a sporting event, a bar, or a restaurant (for dinner) myself because I don't derive as much pleasure alone. Perhaps going to the movies is different, though, because there is not much socializing going on during the movie.
5. Interesting read. The penultimate paragraph before the addendum says it all: "Such [a female victimization] ideology, and the movement built around it, actually diminishes the status of women while vilifying the character of men, thereby militating against the kind of egalitarian and just community that the original feminists envisioned." That said, who is this guy? He seems to have his sources well in order.
R2R:
2. Also, I think a wider range of people fly now.
6. I've read some of the coverage, and I think there are definitely some unanswered questions. I wonder what role outsiders are playing in rape analysis. Both in Dunham's story and in this Yale story, to name one example, the friends have to convince the victim that she is a victim (and in both cases the issue raised is presence or absence of clear, affirmative consent).
R2R2R:
6. Nicole Kidman isn't playing Paddington, but rather the bad guy. She didn't want her kids to see her tormenting poor Paddington.
R2R2R2R:
3. There is something to be said for not wanting to relive the experience on the witness stand, but I think that experience is more generalizable than advocates suggest (and I think that generalizing can be helpful because it could help remove some of the stigma).
B
This is a disheartening trend, but at least people are talking about it. For now...
Speaking of disheartening trends, people are starting to push back here as well.
I expect more pushback along these lines.
And this one is long overdue.
Which one are you? My score was 38 (out of a possible 91), which would put me in the 30th percentile and pretty close to being a satisficer.
This is such a good idea.
These stories are always good for a face palm.
Responses:
1. That makes a lot of sense. I'm going to try these things.
2. Adorbs.
3. Adorbs: Part 2.
4. All good points. But for me it's less the social anxiety of it and more the notion that going to the movies is a social experience. I'm similarly reluctant to go to a sporting event, a bar, or a restaurant (for dinner) myself because I don't derive as much pleasure alone. Perhaps going to the movies is different, though, because there is not much socializing going on during the movie.
5. Interesting read. The penultimate paragraph before the addendum says it all: "Such [a female victimization] ideology, and the movement built around it, actually diminishes the status of women while vilifying the character of men, thereby militating against the kind of egalitarian and just community that the original feminists envisioned." That said, who is this guy? He seems to have his sources well in order.
R2R:
2. Also, I think a wider range of people fly now.
6. I've read some of the coverage, and I think there are definitely some unanswered questions. I wonder what role outsiders are playing in rape analysis. Both in Dunham's story and in this Yale story, to name one example, the friends have to convince the victim that she is a victim (and in both cases the issue raised is presence or absence of clear, affirmative consent).
R2R2R:
6. Nicole Kidman isn't playing Paddington, but rather the bad guy. She didn't want her kids to see her tormenting poor Paddington.
R2R2R2R:
3. There is something to be said for not wanting to relive the experience on the witness stand, but I think that experience is more generalizable than advocates suggest (and I think that generalizing can be helpful because it could help remove some of the stigma).
B
Sunday, December 7, 2014
the happy birthday bear edition (unfortunately there's quite a bit about assault)
apparently we create our own luck
it's videos like this that make the internet worth it
get psyched
this showed up in my feed. seemed appropriate though perhaps it should have gone into your feed.
a complete recap of the whole uva story for posterity
responses
1. that's useful but i haven't been able to get it to work yet.
2. the next generation will not understand this smoking section idea at all. Then again, it's a pretty idiotic idea. and really once they put inseat entertainment, flights were changed forever for the better. there's no going back. i went to china having to watch the dvd's my friend brought and intermittently going slightly crazy.
3. i guess i can agree that politeness serves as a socially acceptable censor. free speech exists apart from politeness and often directly in opposition to it.
4. they seem to connect ghosting with technology but i'm not sure it's that much easier to escape now than before. i mean, people can track you online now.
5. i don't agree with any of what the author thinks is good or bad about those shows. i think it's been going badly this season. however, this was an important gem from the story.
6. i mean i don't care for or against her messiness but i'm not much for lena dunham's rape story
r2r
1. i thought the 4- hour body would be something like - "outsource your workout." but it seems to be heavily researched for the optimal health results with the least effort. so it seems interesting. though i had to return it because it was on hold for someone else. i'll let you know.
2. it was supposed to be a link but i can't remember for what. maybe that dumpling restaurant in queens that you said you would never go to.
4. that first sentence is incredibly sad.
6. nicole kidman plays paddington?!?!?!role of a lifetime.
r2r2r
3. in re princeton: this cosby accuser kinda reminds me of what feminists want to do with sexual assault cases - reducing the statute of limitations and putting the emphasis on shaming perpetrators and not questioning victims. what kills me about the cosby accusers is that you have 16 or so women and maybe 1 went to the police. do women really care so little about other women that they wouldn't alert someone to the danger? do they really care so little about themselves?
it's videos like this that make the internet worth it
get psyched
this showed up in my feed. seemed appropriate though perhaps it should have gone into your feed.
a complete recap of the whole uva story for posterity
responses
1. that's useful but i haven't been able to get it to work yet.
2. the next generation will not understand this smoking section idea at all. Then again, it's a pretty idiotic idea. and really once they put inseat entertainment, flights were changed forever for the better. there's no going back. i went to china having to watch the dvd's my friend brought and intermittently going slightly crazy.
3. i guess i can agree that politeness serves as a socially acceptable censor. free speech exists apart from politeness and often directly in opposition to it.
4. they seem to connect ghosting with technology but i'm not sure it's that much easier to escape now than before. i mean, people can track you online now.
5. i don't agree with any of what the author thinks is good or bad about those shows. i think it's been going badly this season. however, this was an important gem from the story.
6. i mean i don't care for or against her messiness but i'm not much for lena dunham's rape story
r2r
1. i thought the 4- hour body would be something like - "outsource your workout." but it seems to be heavily researched for the optimal health results with the least effort. so it seems interesting. though i had to return it because it was on hold for someone else. i'll let you know.
2. it was supposed to be a link but i can't remember for what. maybe that dumpling restaurant in queens that you said you would never go to.
4. that first sentence is incredibly sad.
6. nicole kidman plays paddington?!?!?!role of a lifetime.
r2r2r
3. in re princeton: this cosby accuser kinda reminds me of what feminists want to do with sexual assault cases - reducing the statute of limitations and putting the emphasis on shaming perpetrators and not questioning victims. what kills me about the cosby accusers is that you have 16 or so women and maybe 1 went to the police. do women really care so little about other women that they wouldn't alert someone to the danger? do they really care so little about themselves?
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
What's Old is New
This is a pretty useful feature in Google Maps.
Maybe flying wasn't better in the good ol' days.
Though I do not necessarily agree with the author's (or Krauthammer's) conclusions about what to do about the Redskins name, she is onto something.
How are New Girl and The Mindy Project doing?
One of my co-workers told me this happened to her friend. But later the friend ran into the guy and confronted him, which seems like a waste of time.
Let's list even more reasons why Lena Dunham is bad.
Responses:
1. There are only maybe 5 books on that list I would even consider reading, but you are more than welcome to tell me what you learn. How is the 4-Hour Body going?
2. Was this supposed to be a link?
3. No, I do not. That said, I understand the feeling very well.
4. My version of Internet Explorer doesn't let me play the clips. That said, I'd probably get them all wrong.
5. I want all of those dogs.
6. Nicole Kidman (who is in the movie) said her kids wouldn't be watching because her character is scarier than they would be comfortable with. I'm led to believe that the plot is more exciting than anything in the books ever was, which takes away some of the appeal for me. Most of Paddington's adventures were very mundane and cute, but I'll reserve judgment.
R2R:
1. I agree with much of what Rubenfeld has to say and disagree with almost all of the response. It's baffling to me that these people don't understand how over-the-top affirmative consent rules are themselves different from actual reality. If they want those rules to be reality, the way to do that is through cultural and societal change, not by creating a world that conflates sexual assault and poor life decisions.
3. Oops. The correct link is here. And an update is here. It's disappointing that 1) Princeton caved, though I get why and 2) that the use of the "clear and convincing evidence" standard rather than the "preponderance of evidence" standard was attributed to "arrogance and ingrained male privilege. This is all so bizarre and wrong.
6. It has to do with Sodastream building a factory in Israeli settlements in the West Bank.
7. So no more Mas?
R2R2R:
6. Yes, but not for spaghetti squash.
B
Maybe flying wasn't better in the good ol' days.
Though I do not necessarily agree with the author's (or Krauthammer's) conclusions about what to do about the Redskins name, she is onto something.
How are New Girl and The Mindy Project doing?
One of my co-workers told me this happened to her friend. But later the friend ran into the guy and confronted him, which seems like a waste of time.
Let's list even more reasons why Lena Dunham is bad.
Responses:
1. There are only maybe 5 books on that list I would even consider reading, but you are more than welcome to tell me what you learn. How is the 4-Hour Body going?
2. Was this supposed to be a link?
3. No, I do not. That said, I understand the feeling very well.
4. My version of Internet Explorer doesn't let me play the clips. That said, I'd probably get them all wrong.
5. I want all of those dogs.
6. Nicole Kidman (who is in the movie) said her kids wouldn't be watching because her character is scarier than they would be comfortable with. I'm led to believe that the plot is more exciting than anything in the books ever was, which takes away some of the appeal for me. Most of Paddington's adventures were very mundane and cute, but I'll reserve judgment.
R2R:
1. I agree with much of what Rubenfeld has to say and disagree with almost all of the response. It's baffling to me that these people don't understand how over-the-top affirmative consent rules are themselves different from actual reality. If they want those rules to be reality, the way to do that is through cultural and societal change, not by creating a world that conflates sexual assault and poor life decisions.
3. Oops. The correct link is here. And an update is here. It's disappointing that 1) Princeton caved, though I get why and 2) that the use of the "clear and convincing evidence" standard rather than the "preponderance of evidence" standard was attributed to "arrogance and ingrained male privilege. This is all so bizarre and wrong.
6. It has to do with Sodastream building a factory in Israeli settlements in the West Bank.
7. So no more Mas?
R2R2R:
6. Yes, but not for spaghetti squash.
B
Fake accents, puppies, and adult guidelines for Paddington.
Well I'm reading the 4-hour body - and we both read david and goliath. i know some of these are cheesy but it seems like a good list.
mmm
do you want to run a marathon?
I want to try this quiz at home
more puppies? yes please!
is there something you want to tell me about paddington bear?
responses!
1. yale law professor jed rubenfeld (husband of amy chua) wrote an oped in the nyt about sexual assault, which i thought was a good article. yale law students disagreed. (there's a link to rubenfeld's article in that article. i'd link to the article directly but i'm out of new york times articles for the month). i think one of the comments has it right - most of these trials are secret so how do we know what the typical case is like? how do we know what the thorniest problems are? affirmative consent seems like a recipe for problems. and why are women so afraid of reporting rape to the police? if it's as predatory as the yale law students believe it to be, women should "ovary up" and report to the police. are women just less likely to report crimes?
also, the yale law students sound as logical as normal feminists. i'm team rubenfeld.
3. this links to the pork belly video. does princeton have a pork belly problem?
4. hmm if you agree not to get christmas or birthday presents for the next ten years...
5. i identify with every one!
6. do you understand what scarlett johansson did wrong that she had to resign from oxfam? but yes, wrong side of history - i don't know if it's bullying so much as weak. it's the "everyone will be doing it" peer pressure model.
7. i'm over small plates. they say we can only make a certain number of decisions every day and that just adds to the too many things to think about. just give me an entree that i know will fill me up! almost makes me want to go to simple olive garden. almost.
r2r
6. no but i think i need a mandolin to do vegetable spaghetti?
mmm
do you want to run a marathon?
I want to try this quiz at home
more puppies? yes please!
is there something you want to tell me about paddington bear?
responses!
1. yale law professor jed rubenfeld (husband of amy chua) wrote an oped in the nyt about sexual assault, which i thought was a good article. yale law students disagreed. (there's a link to rubenfeld's article in that article. i'd link to the article directly but i'm out of new york times articles for the month). i think one of the comments has it right - most of these trials are secret so how do we know what the typical case is like? how do we know what the thorniest problems are? affirmative consent seems like a recipe for problems. and why are women so afraid of reporting rape to the police? if it's as predatory as the yale law students believe it to be, women should "ovary up" and report to the police. are women just less likely to report crimes?
also, the yale law students sound as logical as normal feminists. i'm team rubenfeld.
3. this links to the pork belly video. does princeton have a pork belly problem?
4. hmm if you agree not to get christmas or birthday presents for the next ten years...
5. i identify with every one!
6. do you understand what scarlett johansson did wrong that she had to resign from oxfam? but yes, wrong side of history - i don't know if it's bullying so much as weak. it's the "everyone will be doing it" peer pressure model.
7. i'm over small plates. they say we can only make a certain number of decisions every day and that just adds to the too many things to think about. just give me an entree that i know will fill me up! almost makes me want to go to simple olive garden. almost.
r2r
6. no but i think i need a mandolin to do vegetable spaghetti?
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
On Sexual Assault
Some Harvard professors had some interesting criticisms of the new sexual harassment policies being adopted at schools across the country.
The Washington Post weighed in as well. The Yale paper has a more in-depth account. I think the panel got it right.
Princeton is also battling with this issue. Their policies seem fine to me, if not better than what I've seen elsewhere.
I want one!
Do you understand these struggles?
Every time someone makes this argument to me, I just roll my eyes. It smacks of arrogance and dismissiveness.
This is the big problem with small plates.
Responses:
1. Those cameras are dumb. He was doing the world a service!
2. That looks delicious. Here is another variant on pork belly that Gordon Ramsay put together.
3. There were two statements that I found problematic: 1) she said that her career would always be first, ring or no ring, and 2) she didn't think the therapist would ever ask a husband to cut back on his hours. The first one would sound cruel coming out of any husband's mouth and seems like a life choice that would make any romantic relationship difficult, and the second is likely untrue (maybe it was true in the 1950s). Also, outsourcing to child labor does sound wrong...
4. I hear this in person from time to time. It's quite unpleasant. That person really didn't understand the point of the article, but hopefully the reasonable people on each side of the aisle can continue to bridge the gaps.
5. Maybe start brainstorming some puns starting in August 2015 (to make sure it's relatively topical).
6. I want a puppy!
7. Have you ever tried spaghetti squash? The paleo people swear by it.
R2R:
"The End is the Beginning"
2. I love chicken thighs. Wings are so difficult for not as good a reward.
R2R2R:
4. He phrases it as if recording "near-death" is less valuable than recording mundane aspects of life. The latter is obviously more justifiable. If I were getting ready to crash in an airplane and I was connected to the internet, after saying a quick prayer and making sure my affairs were in order, I would probably record a video to send to my loved ones. And I'm the most anti-selfie person I know.
6. Maybe some prospective invaders are working with the massage industry to mellow us out to make the invasion easier. It's a risk I'm willing to take.
B
The Washington Post weighed in as well. The Yale paper has a more in-depth account. I think the panel got it right.
Princeton is also battling with this issue. Their policies seem fine to me, if not better than what I've seen elsewhere.
I want one!
Do you understand these struggles?
Every time someone makes this argument to me, I just roll my eyes. It smacks of arrogance and dismissiveness.
This is the big problem with small plates.
Responses:
1. Those cameras are dumb. He was doing the world a service!
2. That looks delicious. Here is another variant on pork belly that Gordon Ramsay put together.
3. There were two statements that I found problematic: 1) she said that her career would always be first, ring or no ring, and 2) she didn't think the therapist would ever ask a husband to cut back on his hours. The first one would sound cruel coming out of any husband's mouth and seems like a life choice that would make any romantic relationship difficult, and the second is likely untrue (maybe it was true in the 1950s). Also, outsourcing to child labor does sound wrong...
4. I hear this in person from time to time. It's quite unpleasant. That person really didn't understand the point of the article, but hopefully the reasonable people on each side of the aisle can continue to bridge the gaps.
5. Maybe start brainstorming some puns starting in August 2015 (to make sure it's relatively topical).
6. I want a puppy!
7. Have you ever tried spaghetti squash? The paleo people swear by it.
R2R:
"The End is the Beginning"
2. I love chicken thighs. Wings are so difficult for not as good a reward.
R2R2R:
4. He phrases it as if recording "near-death" is less valuable than recording mundane aspects of life. The latter is obviously more justifiable. If I were getting ready to crash in an airplane and I was connected to the internet, after saying a quick prayer and making sure my affairs were in order, I would probably record a video to send to my loved ones. And I'm the most anti-selfie person I know.
6. Maybe some prospective invaders are working with the massage industry to mellow us out to make the invasion easier. It's a risk I'm willing to take.
B
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
Getting back in the groove
stop the surveillance on bears! well i guess they got their comeuppance.
I kinda want all my recipes to look like this in form.
i thought this article is basically professional woman catnip. but i thought "startup that helps American companies outsource digital work to women and children in developing countries" sounded terrible. is it a good thing to outsource that work abroad?
partyism is the new racism. i read another article that linked to this article that said "I'm still going to judge people based on their parties because that shows if that person has any morals at all!" so i don't think that person understood this article.
punny costumes are the highlight of halloween for me. if i came up with an original, i'd probably find a halloween party to go to just to show it (and my incredible wit) off.
because...puppies
tasty ideas - even though its veggies pretending to be pasta it's a far better sight than tofu trying to be meat
responses to "well rested bear"
1. i had heard this from someone a long time ago. she said she didn't drink the full 8 glasses but she wasn't thirsty and i think she may have said her pee was clear but i may have made that up. i, however, am always thirsty.
2. i mean, the postal worker was just scared. he didn't say anything negative about the bear. he didn't know the bear! it's just like running into a strange man.
3. that's good. wasn't expecting it even though it needed to happen.
4. i still don't get that show. even after reading that.
5. creepy.
6. well, the ending was strange, for sure. but the whole idea is weird. like the idea is that the best defense against bullies is living a good life. and that you're not supposed to care how the bullies turned out- they're all ugly and stupid and wrecked because of how badly they treated you in the past (see, e.g., the kids that used to bully taylor swift). you're never supposed to go back and actually see them! also it'd be weird if i was hypothetically a former bully to be confronted like that. you have this person trying to get you to start crying and asking for forgiveness. i think i might play a few mind games with this person as well.
7. 2 bullying articles in a row - but this one is less clear cut bullying. i guess you mean it's bullying the announcers but if it's deemed an obscenity, they're not allowed to say it. and it doesn't seem like bullying snyder because it doesn't really reach him?
responses to "the end is the beginning"
1. i would totally get hbo on demand. i keep hearing about this game of thrones business.
2. i'm kinda tired of chicken wings. maybe we can move on to thighs?
3. seems a little terrifying. but that's probably because i'm afraid of scooters and motorcycles.
4. coq10! just in case.
5. these odes make me feel incredibly old. but then again i wasn't old enough to watch this when i was younger or old enough to request the uma thurman haircut at any point in my life. (although honestly, that kinda was my haircut growing up).
6. i don't actually know why the current sitcoms are so bad. what happened to the people who wrote cheers or frazier or sex and the city? those were really good shows that were funny and thoughtful. then again, maybe we're to blame as there are good shows that get cancelled (community, happy endings) or criticized to death (arrested development 4th season). i saw a wapo article about tv shows that ended badly and it said that no one was satisfied with how i met your mother's ending (clearly she doesn't know us. but if she's talking about the last half of the entire series, yeah, that was pretty excruciating).
r2r "check the therapists"
1. it was in a comment on the billfold. the guy is the commenter's grandfather or something.
2. the experiment seems a little convoluted and also a little too "on the nose" but it's kinda fun to injure through hot sauce. i guess it's like the benevolent way of conducting the (Zimbardo?) volunteer shocking experiment (y'know, the one where they tell the volunteer to press the button to shock the person - well i guess that's not revenge so much as watching people suffering but it seems similar to me).
4. so you would flip that to say it's never necessary to record one's life or one's near death?
5. thanks bear. *bunny beaming*
6. do you think the recommended minimum 1 massage/month is being brought to us by the evil masseuse lobby that is trying to make us calmer than we need to be?
I kinda want all my recipes to look like this in form.
i thought this article is basically professional woman catnip. but i thought "startup that helps American companies outsource digital work to women and children in developing countries" sounded terrible. is it a good thing to outsource that work abroad?
partyism is the new racism. i read another article that linked to this article that said "I'm still going to judge people based on their parties because that shows if that person has any morals at all!" so i don't think that person understood this article.
punny costumes are the highlight of halloween for me. if i came up with an original, i'd probably find a halloween party to go to just to show it (and my incredible wit) off.
because...puppies
tasty ideas - even though its veggies pretending to be pasta it's a far better sight than tofu trying to be meat
responses to "well rested bear"
1. i had heard this from someone a long time ago. she said she didn't drink the full 8 glasses but she wasn't thirsty and i think she may have said her pee was clear but i may have made that up. i, however, am always thirsty.
2. i mean, the postal worker was just scared. he didn't say anything negative about the bear. he didn't know the bear! it's just like running into a strange man.
3. that's good. wasn't expecting it even though it needed to happen.
4. i still don't get that show. even after reading that.
5. creepy.
6. well, the ending was strange, for sure. but the whole idea is weird. like the idea is that the best defense against bullies is living a good life. and that you're not supposed to care how the bullies turned out- they're all ugly and stupid and wrecked because of how badly they treated you in the past (see, e.g., the kids that used to bully taylor swift). you're never supposed to go back and actually see them! also it'd be weird if i was hypothetically a former bully to be confronted like that. you have this person trying to get you to start crying and asking for forgiveness. i think i might play a few mind games with this person as well.
7. 2 bullying articles in a row - but this one is less clear cut bullying. i guess you mean it's bullying the announcers but if it's deemed an obscenity, they're not allowed to say it. and it doesn't seem like bullying snyder because it doesn't really reach him?
responses to "the end is the beginning"
1. i would totally get hbo on demand. i keep hearing about this game of thrones business.
2. i'm kinda tired of chicken wings. maybe we can move on to thighs?
3. seems a little terrifying. but that's probably because i'm afraid of scooters and motorcycles.
4. coq10! just in case.
5. these odes make me feel incredibly old. but then again i wasn't old enough to watch this when i was younger or old enough to request the uma thurman haircut at any point in my life. (although honestly, that kinda was my haircut growing up).
6. i don't actually know why the current sitcoms are so bad. what happened to the people who wrote cheers or frazier or sex and the city? those were really good shows that were funny and thoughtful. then again, maybe we're to blame as there are good shows that get cancelled (community, happy endings) or criticized to death (arrested development 4th season). i saw a wapo article about tv shows that ended badly and it said that no one was satisfied with how i met your mother's ending (clearly she doesn't know us. but if she's talking about the last half of the entire series, yeah, that was pretty excruciating).
r2r "check the therapists"
1. it was in a comment on the billfold. the guy is the commenter's grandfather or something.
2. the experiment seems a little convoluted and also a little too "on the nose" but it's kinda fun to injure through hot sauce. i guess it's like the benevolent way of conducting the (Zimbardo?) volunteer shocking experiment (y'know, the one where they tell the volunteer to press the button to shock the person - well i guess that's not revenge so much as watching people suffering but it seems similar to me).
4. so you would flip that to say it's never necessary to record one's life or one's near death?
5. thanks bear. *bunny beaming*
6. do you think the recommended minimum 1 massage/month is being brought to us by the evil masseuse lobby that is trying to make us calmer than we need to be?
Friday, October 31, 2014
The End of the Beginning of the End
It's not the end for cable companies, but it's past the beginning of the end. Maybe it's the end of the beginning of the end for cable companies.
It's crazy that chicken wings have become so expensive, but this is probably part of the reason why.
This is kinda neat. It would certainly make it easier for amateur bicyclists to keep up in traffic.
Ruh roh...
And now for an ode to Pulp Fiction on the 20th anniversary of its release.
Is the time of the network TV sitcom over?
Responses to "But check the therapists!":
1. How did you end up at Chicago Magazine? He does seem rather badass.
2. I've always loved Taken. What a great movie, and what great feelings behind it. As a sidenote, it's interesting that the way the subject expressed their aggression was through provision of hot sauce.
3. That's something I've heard before. I wonder how much they exercise.
4. "It is no longer enough to record seemingly every last moment of life with your smartphone, it seems. Near death is fair game, too." See, I would flip that, just as the guy says. Unless all the people who take pictures of their food are doing so because it's their last meal before execution, there's a huge difference between using recording technology for good and using it to be a narcissist.
5. Are you trying to tell me that you're struggling with food? You're not fat - you look great!
6. I have good ideas! Also, I'm glad one massage a month is the bare (pun intended) minimum...
7. No more pigs in blankets? This can't be good advice. (Some of the other things they mention are interesting.)
8. That's pretty useful.
9. More great tips. I feel about cooking the same as I do about playing guitar: mostly self-taught and some talent, but really rough around the edges.
10. I will review these.
B
It's crazy that chicken wings have become so expensive, but this is probably part of the reason why.
This is kinda neat. It would certainly make it easier for amateur bicyclists to keep up in traffic.
Ruh roh...
And now for an ode to Pulp Fiction on the 20th anniversary of its release.
Is the time of the network TV sitcom over?
Responses to "But check the therapists!":
1. How did you end up at Chicago Magazine? He does seem rather badass.
2. I've always loved Taken. What a great movie, and what great feelings behind it. As a sidenote, it's interesting that the way the subject expressed their aggression was through provision of hot sauce.
3. That's something I've heard before. I wonder how much they exercise.
4. "It is no longer enough to record seemingly every last moment of life with your smartphone, it seems. Near death is fair game, too." See, I would flip that, just as the guy says. Unless all the people who take pictures of their food are doing so because it's their last meal before execution, there's a huge difference between using recording technology for good and using it to be a narcissist.
5. Are you trying to tell me that you're struggling with food? You're not fat - you look great!
6. I have good ideas! Also, I'm glad one massage a month is the bare (pun intended) minimum...
7. No more pigs in blankets? This can't be good advice. (Some of the other things they mention are interesting.)
8. That's pretty useful.
9. More great tips. I feel about cooking the same as I do about playing guitar: mostly self-taught and some talent, but really rough around the edges.
10. I will review these.
B
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
A Visit from Well Rested Bear
It's another story about how something that's supposed to be healthy might just be irrelevant.
He was just stopping by to say hello! No need to make an international incident over it...
The NFL blackout rule is gone.
One of my favorite shows is getting some positive press.
Cuddling on demand is apparently getting more popular. Here is a take from The Onion.
This story was bizarre.
This seems like bullying...
Responses to "The Politics of Pies":
1. This makes a lot of sense. The chefs on TV say this sometimes, but the difference is that you have to learn how to cook a lot of stuff so you can actually adapt to what's in season. You also have to learn what sorta goes together to make basic flavor combinations. There's a lot of failed attempts followed by takeout before you get to the point where the author is, but that's part of the fun.
2. Would that we had the sort of life where there were tart emergencies...
3. It seems society should rethink how to fund things like science and general research.
4. The obvious response to threats of default would be to find ways to lower tuition. It appears that this isn't happening...
5. He seems to have handled it quite well. It's par for the course in politics, though, especially local politics.
R2R2R:
1. The latter.
6. I'd do it if I were a pro football player making millions.
R2R2R2R:
7. The fat train is the express train to death, whereas the thin train is the local - it makes more stops and takes the scenic route. So unless you've become a fatalist and believe that nothing matters since we're all going to die anyway...
B
He was just stopping by to say hello! No need to make an international incident over it...
The NFL blackout rule is gone.
One of my favorite shows is getting some positive press.
Cuddling on demand is apparently getting more popular. Here is a take from The Onion.
This story was bizarre.
This seems like bullying...
Responses to "The Politics of Pies":
1. This makes a lot of sense. The chefs on TV say this sometimes, but the difference is that you have to learn how to cook a lot of stuff so you can actually adapt to what's in season. You also have to learn what sorta goes together to make basic flavor combinations. There's a lot of failed attempts followed by takeout before you get to the point where the author is, but that's part of the fun.
2. Would that we had the sort of life where there were tart emergencies...
3. It seems society should rethink how to fund things like science and general research.
4. The obvious response to threats of default would be to find ways to lower tuition. It appears that this isn't happening...
5. He seems to have handled it quite well. It's par for the course in politics, though, especially local politics.
R2R2R:
1. The latter.
6. I'd do it if I were a pro football player making millions.
R2R2R2R:
7. The fat train is the express train to death, whereas the thin train is the local - it makes more stops and takes the scenic route. So unless you've become a fatalist and believe that nothing matters since we're all going to die anyway...
B
Monday, October 13, 2014
But check the therapists!
old people kicking ass
basically the science behind Taken
surprisingly honest and another thing to add to the fat-shaming debate
more on living in a selfie-ful world. though i have no problem with what that guy did. if i were in his situation, i'd probably record a note to my family as well. and i have a bad memory so my strategy is take a picture and then put the camera away.
out of left field but interesting to think about art
more incentive to go au natural just like bear
an informed cook is a good cook
this will let you know if you're getting a good deal on a product at amazon - timely because we have 5% back at amazon this quarter.
haven't clicked through it all yet but i always love rereading the basics
potential therapists - I didn't do a lot of research but from this brief look, I can investigate these people further once you choose some you don't think you'd hate.
pamela garber - skype only
ian lithgow - i assume this is in person. his father is john lithgow.
Katherine Schafler - annoying website but I think she deals with people like us.
Raven Maldonado-Brown - seems fine
Andrew Gottlieb - seems fine. specialty is lgbt but doesn't mean he can't do other things.
basically the science behind Taken
surprisingly honest and another thing to add to the fat-shaming debate
more on living in a selfie-ful world. though i have no problem with what that guy did. if i were in his situation, i'd probably record a note to my family as well. and i have a bad memory so my strategy is take a picture and then put the camera away.
out of left field but interesting to think about art
more incentive to go au natural just like bear
an informed cook is a good cook
this will let you know if you're getting a good deal on a product at amazon - timely because we have 5% back at amazon this quarter.
haven't clicked through it all yet but i always love rereading the basics
potential therapists - I didn't do a lot of research but from this brief look, I can investigate these people further once you choose some you don't think you'd hate.
pamela garber - skype only
ian lithgow - i assume this is in person. his father is john lithgow.
Katherine Schafler - annoying website but I think she deals with people like us.
Raven Maldonado-Brown - seems fine
Andrew Gottlieb - seems fine. specialty is lgbt but doesn't mean he can't do other things.
Monday, September 29, 2014
The Politics of Pies
i liked this approach to improvisational cooking. i had tried reading a book about how to improvise while cooking but it was really boring and hard to follow. i think it was more of a novel. and miso instead of corn starch - genius!
for later because it has come to my attention that i don't make enough pies
but then what's the point in funding all this research with all our susan g komen money if we're not putting money into the high risk/high reward tests?
where is the good news? this seems like really bad news. and basically why tuitions will continue to be so high.
i think i was getting neil gaimin mixed up with orson scott card in terms of politics. i liked what he wrote here about being insulted by a Minn. republican tho, whatever his actual politics are.
responses!
1. i've seen them around the mall and at first thought it strange and then realized that people walk around the mall (not everyone works in an office in downtown all day) and have nothing to eat but hot dogs for miles (miles without anything else to eat - not miles of hot dogs, I assume). seems like a smart move. food trucks for the win.
2. I guess I should bookmark this and refer to it often.
3. there's a new article on the secret service messing up after bullets apparently hit the white house while sasha was inside. however, the article itself points out that they couldn't have stopped the shots themselves and no one was hurt. and if sasha had been shot, then they probably would have noticed that. but yes, this article about closing down the sidewalk of the white house is crazy talk. (apparently obama gets a lot of death threats tho - I think that was in the more recent wapo article about the secret service).
4. yeah i saw that. it's all "well we've been hurt by racist epithets our whole lives so if you endure it for a few minutes from us, you should count yourself as lucky." bully the bullies, as it were.
r2r
1. what do you mean the anti-warren buffett? because they're putting their money where their mouths are?
6. maybe if they had some optional training that would cost the players some money? that way they have some buy-in?
11. that switch analogy is a good one. i'll remember it.
r2r2r
7. what's the last stop if not death? and the thin train goes there as well.
bftp
in april of 2013, you looked at an article that examined a different reason why women may work less/earn less.
for later because it has come to my attention that i don't make enough pies
but then what's the point in funding all this research with all our susan g komen money if we're not putting money into the high risk/high reward tests?
where is the good news? this seems like really bad news. and basically why tuitions will continue to be so high.
i think i was getting neil gaimin mixed up with orson scott card in terms of politics. i liked what he wrote here about being insulted by a Minn. republican tho, whatever his actual politics are.
responses!
1. i've seen them around the mall and at first thought it strange and then realized that people walk around the mall (not everyone works in an office in downtown all day) and have nothing to eat but hot dogs for miles (miles without anything else to eat - not miles of hot dogs, I assume). seems like a smart move. food trucks for the win.
2. I guess I should bookmark this and refer to it often.
3. there's a new article on the secret service messing up after bullets apparently hit the white house while sasha was inside. however, the article itself points out that they couldn't have stopped the shots themselves and no one was hurt. and if sasha had been shot, then they probably would have noticed that. but yes, this article about closing down the sidewalk of the white house is crazy talk. (apparently obama gets a lot of death threats tho - I think that was in the more recent wapo article about the secret service).
4. yeah i saw that. it's all "well we've been hurt by racist epithets our whole lives so if you endure it for a few minutes from us, you should count yourself as lucky." bully the bullies, as it were.
r2r
1. what do you mean the anti-warren buffett? because they're putting their money where their mouths are?
6. maybe if they had some optional training that would cost the players some money? that way they have some buy-in?
11. that switch analogy is a good one. i'll remember it.
r2r2r
7. what's the last stop if not death? and the thin train goes there as well.
bftp
in april of 2013, you looked at an article that examined a different reason why women may work less/earn less.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Lunch Time
The food trucks are coming! The food trucks are coming!
More on eggs, with a hat tip to Alton Brown.
The Secret Service used to be cool and dangerous. Now they just seem antiquated and like another government bureaucracy.
Apparently, it's okay to be dicks to people with whom you disagree on an issue.
Responses:
1. The Corinthian Colleges bit seems less like a student loan debt problem and more like a fraud problem. That said, these guys are the anti-Warren Buffett (based on our earlier conversation), and I don't have a problem with that.
2. It seems like the advice is out there. All that's left is the doing it. America.
3. You're saying I'd lose weight, have more friends, and make more money? I will light my clutter on fire then.
4. Best idea I've heard in a while.
5. Worst idea I've heard in a while. This is how ebola spreads, btw. Also, even if the dead person doesn't have ebola, dead bodies smell terrible. There's a reason for that...
6. It couldn't hurt. For me, what's lost in this is player responsibility. There's a lot of talk about how the players now understand the long-term physiological risks of playing football. But if you're taking home millions, you should probably take it upon yourself to take steps not to jeopardize it.
7. I'm going to save this one.
8. GQ was pretty mad about this. It isn't that hard to put on a suit.
9. This is unrealistic. I'm not going to finish this article because it'll make me sad.
10. How is "convert to Mormonism" not the one and only step?
11. Part of the problem is that feminists disagree on what feminism is. Also, the funny thing about the victim-blaming response to common-sense precautions that women might take is that these people are pretty much only looking to place blame rather than prevent harm. If there were a switch you had to pull that would eliminate domestic violence and rape, but it had to be pulled by a woman, if it were up to them, we'd still have violence.
R2R:
7. You've combined my love of trains with my love of analogies. Win. (That said, shouldn't it be to get off the fat train before you end up at the last stop?)
B
More on eggs, with a hat tip to Alton Brown.
The Secret Service used to be cool and dangerous. Now they just seem antiquated and like another government bureaucracy.
Apparently, it's okay to be dicks to people with whom you disagree on an issue.
Responses:
1. The Corinthian Colleges bit seems less like a student loan debt problem and more like a fraud problem. That said, these guys are the anti-Warren Buffett (based on our earlier conversation), and I don't have a problem with that.
2. It seems like the advice is out there. All that's left is the doing it. America.
3. You're saying I'd lose weight, have more friends, and make more money? I will light my clutter on fire then.
4. Best idea I've heard in a while.
5. Worst idea I've heard in a while. This is how ebola spreads, btw. Also, even if the dead person doesn't have ebola, dead bodies smell terrible. There's a reason for that...
6. It couldn't hurt. For me, what's lost in this is player responsibility. There's a lot of talk about how the players now understand the long-term physiological risks of playing football. But if you're taking home millions, you should probably take it upon yourself to take steps not to jeopardize it.
7. I'm going to save this one.
8. GQ was pretty mad about this. It isn't that hard to put on a suit.
9. This is unrealistic. I'm not going to finish this article because it'll make me sad.
10. How is "convert to Mormonism" not the one and only step?
11. Part of the problem is that feminists disagree on what feminism is. Also, the funny thing about the victim-blaming response to common-sense precautions that women might take is that these people are pretty much only looking to place blame rather than prevent harm. If there were a switch you had to pull that would eliminate domestic violence and rape, but it had to be pulled by a woman, if it were up to them, we'd still have violence.
R2R:
7. You've combined my love of trains with my love of analogies. Win. (That said, shouldn't it be to get off the fat train before you end up at the last stop?)
B
Monday, September 22, 2014
occupy
so the occupy movement actually made something productive? i actually dont' see any negatives here - well except that it keeps people from defaulting and massive defaults would ultimately bring this tuition charade down. but yeah, this is the most positive thing i've ever heard about the occupy movement - by a long shot.
in the diy way
i really want to get rid of clutter. i keep seeing all those catalogs where there is no clutter and i think, wow, if i could live like that....well then i would be a superwoman
if only
getting back to our roots i guess
this seems like the right direction
this is basically a whole bunch of youdlikethis's in one
weird and awesome at the same time - an adult onesie. i'm not entirely sure how this makes it more comfortable to wear. i don't think onesies are comfortable (although jumpsuits are in style for women and i don't understand that either).
toward finishing my to-do list
how to make the happiest family of them all
i hate this. 1) i hate that violence against women is a female issue (as in, it seems that's what people would say, i think it's an everyone issue) but that it's also incumbent on men to fix the whole problem. i thought it was a little cheesy but i did appreciate when people would cross out the "woman" part and rewrite it so it would read "stop violence against everyone" and 2) fixing the problem seems to be men signing a pledge or some crap like that and 3) why is feminism called man-hating? maybe we need to stop focusing on men being the problem and focus on how we all contribute. maybe we need to not just get men to sign this pledge (because apparently all men are desiring of committing violence against women unless they solve this pledge) but also women (because why should we assume that women are for this when we don't assume men are? because women on women violence is a thing as well. because i read a review of lana del rey's new album where she glorifies women who love being abused and the critic says, why shouldn't lana del rey raise up this kind of woman? why should we only glorify a certain type of woman?). and 4) as i said before, i like emma watson but why in the world is she a un ambassador? this speech seemed pretty stupid. she doesn't seem to understand what is going on with feminism. (to me, the speech read "i'm inviting men to be a part of this gender discussion on how can men be less evil.")
responses
1. maybe it's sad that our mothers fought for equal pay and our generation is fighting for the right to look as trashy as possible for a high school student. at church, i think we talked about professional attire and i made the off comment that men wouldn't have experience talking to women about inappropriate dress and one of the men said it wasn't true - that he had had that uncomfortable conversation before. it would have been nice if women were taught what was appropriate. or maybe we'll become a society where women will wear lingerie to work to feel empowered.
and ugh with the "teach men to respect me" blah blah blah. this is why people think feminists are man-hating. it's because we focus on all the things men can change but assume women can't or shouldn't have to change a thing.
2. i agree with allowing pass/fail for freshman year but it does seem like there would be no incentive to work hard if there were no grades. and also if there were no grades, it seems like poorer people might not have the internships to compete with their richer colleagues who can take prestigious unpaid jobs so again, the poorer would get the shaft.
3. there are worse trends, for sure. the &pizza that just opened near me had a 45 minutes weight. but is sit-down dining going away? or are we just going to have fast casual and foodie fancy places?
4. i was totally interested in an article like this. to me, it did seem like there were fewer incidents than one would expect, particularly given the demographics that professional sports draws from. if it compared to poor black kids, the nfl would basically be a crime prevention tool.
5. ugh out-of-towners. arlington has soul! it just doesn't derive its soul from dining establishments. the people are what make it interesting and kristen gillibrand can stay in capitol hill.
6. i thought the writing about how breadsticks could be served more efficiently made a lot of sense. more detailed than i thought a consulting group would go into but maybe that's the kind of stuff they need to know. (also length of asparagus is important because they have to snap it at a certain length- they should be uniform and they shouldnt' have the tough end. nor should they be too short and waste the asparagus).
7. i thought the line "your mom would be prouder of you" was a bit too far. however, no woman should be 60-70 pounds overweight. for me that would make me over 200 pounds and no woman my height (or possibly any height) should be 200 pounds. we do need more people saying, hey, you might need to get on the diet train before you end up at the last stop - diabetes and death.
8. i thought the most glaring omission is the lack of men. maybe black women are disproportionately the victims but what we are saying with the nfl is that men are the perpetrators (100% because there are no women in the nfl). and how are we going to help change that without some men on the squad? maybe some retired nfl players or even male psychologists. it seemed very not well rounded.
in the diy way
i really want to get rid of clutter. i keep seeing all those catalogs where there is no clutter and i think, wow, if i could live like that....well then i would be a superwoman
if only
getting back to our roots i guess
this seems like the right direction
this is basically a whole bunch of youdlikethis's in one
weird and awesome at the same time - an adult onesie. i'm not entirely sure how this makes it more comfortable to wear. i don't think onesies are comfortable (although jumpsuits are in style for women and i don't understand that either).
toward finishing my to-do list
how to make the happiest family of them all
i hate this. 1) i hate that violence against women is a female issue (as in, it seems that's what people would say, i think it's an everyone issue) but that it's also incumbent on men to fix the whole problem. i thought it was a little cheesy but i did appreciate when people would cross out the "woman" part and rewrite it so it would read "stop violence against everyone" and 2) fixing the problem seems to be men signing a pledge or some crap like that and 3) why is feminism called man-hating? maybe we need to stop focusing on men being the problem and focus on how we all contribute. maybe we need to not just get men to sign this pledge (because apparently all men are desiring of committing violence against women unless they solve this pledge) but also women (because why should we assume that women are for this when we don't assume men are? because women on women violence is a thing as well. because i read a review of lana del rey's new album where she glorifies women who love being abused and the critic says, why shouldn't lana del rey raise up this kind of woman? why should we only glorify a certain type of woman?). and 4) as i said before, i like emma watson but why in the world is she a un ambassador? this speech seemed pretty stupid. she doesn't seem to understand what is going on with feminism. (to me, the speech read "i'm inviting men to be a part of this gender discussion on how can men be less evil.")
responses
1. maybe it's sad that our mothers fought for equal pay and our generation is fighting for the right to look as trashy as possible for a high school student. at church, i think we talked about professional attire and i made the off comment that men wouldn't have experience talking to women about inappropriate dress and one of the men said it wasn't true - that he had had that uncomfortable conversation before. it would have been nice if women were taught what was appropriate. or maybe we'll become a society where women will wear lingerie to work to feel empowered.
and ugh with the "teach men to respect me" blah blah blah. this is why people think feminists are man-hating. it's because we focus on all the things men can change but assume women can't or shouldn't have to change a thing.
2. i agree with allowing pass/fail for freshman year but it does seem like there would be no incentive to work hard if there were no grades. and also if there were no grades, it seems like poorer people might not have the internships to compete with their richer colleagues who can take prestigious unpaid jobs so again, the poorer would get the shaft.
3. there are worse trends, for sure. the &pizza that just opened near me had a 45 minutes weight. but is sit-down dining going away? or are we just going to have fast casual and foodie fancy places?
4. i was totally interested in an article like this. to me, it did seem like there were fewer incidents than one would expect, particularly given the demographics that professional sports draws from. if it compared to poor black kids, the nfl would basically be a crime prevention tool.
5. ugh out-of-towners. arlington has soul! it just doesn't derive its soul from dining establishments. the people are what make it interesting and kristen gillibrand can stay in capitol hill.
6. i thought the writing about how breadsticks could be served more efficiently made a lot of sense. more detailed than i thought a consulting group would go into but maybe that's the kind of stuff they need to know. (also length of asparagus is important because they have to snap it at a certain length- they should be uniform and they shouldnt' have the tough end. nor should they be too short and waste the asparagus).
7. i thought the line "your mom would be prouder of you" was a bit too far. however, no woman should be 60-70 pounds overweight. for me that would make me over 200 pounds and no woman my height (or possibly any height) should be 200 pounds. we do need more people saying, hey, you might need to get on the diet train before you end up at the last stop - diabetes and death.
8. i thought the most glaring omission is the lack of men. maybe black women are disproportionately the victims but what we are saying with the nfl is that men are the perpetrators (100% because there are no women in the nfl). and how are we going to help change that without some men on the squad? maybe some retired nfl players or even male psychologists. it seemed very not well rounded.
Friday, September 19, 2014
More on Millennials
At first, this seemed like just another bizarre extension of modern feminist nonsense, but then I remembered that the female lawyers around here wear professional attire, to a (wo)man. And the teachers who teach those spoiled brats wear professional clothing. (Note: it may be that some feminists want to jump on this bandwagon, but that doesn't change my view that it's careening into an oak tree; if anything, such view is reinforced.)
I am ambivalent about this proposal. On the one hand, I think everyone is too grade-obsessed, and that places far too much weight on what we should all remember is a proxy (and not necessarily the most accurate proxy), and it's not as though these courses would no longer be graded. On the other hand, I fear that 1) freshmen would be drunk all the time and probably not make it to sophomore year and 2) I don't know how this would create a more inclusive environment.
Presumably some comination of DC Type-A types and millennials are responsible for the Chipotle-fication of the DC food scene.
This data suggests both that the NFL has a domestic violence problem and that the NFL doesn't have a domestic violence (or frankly, even a crime) problem. I would want to think more about why these numbers look this way before pushing forward with the "suspend and jail everyone" approach.
Kirsten Gillibrand (not to mention the Washington Post!) has some not nice things to say about Arlington.
The expression for this is "rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic."
The expression for this is "the fat is interfering with your brain." I read the post before I ever saw this piece and had two thoughts: 1) that makes sense and 2) is Abby going to get in trouble for this? I think the break is that these anti-fat-shaming people are assuming that people like Abby are conflating wanting to change oneself and not loving oneself. At no point in her response did Abby suggest that this person should be ashamed of being fat, but rather Abby suggested that the questioner should be ashamed of her complacency in dealing with a difficult but important problem. To the extent that this was an inaccurate assumption, fair enough, but the framing of the question ("I'm comfortable with the status quo; how can I make my mom change or else shame her into capitulating?") suggested complacency.
There are several issues with this news item: 1) the stated issue, that the leadership team includes two black women that this organization seemed to overlook, 2) this group purports to represent black women and girls but doesn't do so just because of the name or because they say so, 3) the fact that black women are disproportionately affected by domestic violence doesn't mean that domestic violence is different between blacks and non-blacks, 4) the fact that black women are disproportionately affected by domestic violence doesn't mean that the people chosen do not understand domestic violence, 5) Jesse Jackson is prominently involved, and 6) nobody is stopping this group from engaging this issue with the 99.9% of people who are affected by domestic violence but don't happen to play for the NFL. And if the complaint is that the NFL's high profile would allow this group to get its message out more effectively, then the headline should be "Sore Loser Group Mad that They Aren't Beneficiaries of Free Publicity; Throws Temper Tantrum in Response."
Responses:
1. And he's not even sorry... Certain crimes are unforgivable crimes. To be sure, a lot of people haven't forgiven Michael Vick, and if he becomes the starter in New York, I expect those people to get a bit louder.
2. To be sure, Toronto is closer than LA, but wouldn't the dream be In-N-Out DC or NY?
3. A+.
4. That's pretty interesting.
R2R:
1. The teacher glut does raise some questions about the continued need for TFA (though the fact that these laid-off teachers are thus far declining to take jobs in rural areas shows there may still be a place for TFA), but I agree that it's a leadership organization. I don't think Kopp's goal was to push more people into careers as teachers, but rather to expose intelligent young people to the education system, expecting that these young people, who by and large have amazing credentials, would move into leadership positions down the road and affect education positively. I get the cultural tourism bit, but I don't necessarily view that as a negative.
3. It's all about money. All students pay some amount of money that goes into a pot to pay for student organizations (this pot is sometimes supplemented by university funding). Organizations that aren't recognized by the school are ineligible for this funding and not allowed to use university property for organization events.
8. The argument was that ensuring that NFL teams didn't go out of business because nobody came to the games is in the public interest. It's a specious argument for many reasons...
BFTP:
Networking is super important.
Also, I posted this a while ago, but I can't find it now.
B
I am ambivalent about this proposal. On the one hand, I think everyone is too grade-obsessed, and that places far too much weight on what we should all remember is a proxy (and not necessarily the most accurate proxy), and it's not as though these courses would no longer be graded. On the other hand, I fear that 1) freshmen would be drunk all the time and probably not make it to sophomore year and 2) I don't know how this would create a more inclusive environment.
Presumably some comination of DC Type-A types and millennials are responsible for the Chipotle-fication of the DC food scene.
This data suggests both that the NFL has a domestic violence problem and that the NFL doesn't have a domestic violence (or frankly, even a crime) problem. I would want to think more about why these numbers look this way before pushing forward with the "suspend and jail everyone" approach.
Kirsten Gillibrand (not to mention the Washington Post!) has some not nice things to say about Arlington.
The expression for this is "rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic."
The expression for this is "the fat is interfering with your brain." I read the post before I ever saw this piece and had two thoughts: 1) that makes sense and 2) is Abby going to get in trouble for this? I think the break is that these anti-fat-shaming people are assuming that people like Abby are conflating wanting to change oneself and not loving oneself. At no point in her response did Abby suggest that this person should be ashamed of being fat, but rather Abby suggested that the questioner should be ashamed of her complacency in dealing with a difficult but important problem. To the extent that this was an inaccurate assumption, fair enough, but the framing of the question ("I'm comfortable with the status quo; how can I make my mom change or else shame her into capitulating?") suggested complacency.
There are several issues with this news item: 1) the stated issue, that the leadership team includes two black women that this organization seemed to overlook, 2) this group purports to represent black women and girls but doesn't do so just because of the name or because they say so, 3) the fact that black women are disproportionately affected by domestic violence doesn't mean that domestic violence is different between blacks and non-blacks, 4) the fact that black women are disproportionately affected by domestic violence doesn't mean that the people chosen do not understand domestic violence, 5) Jesse Jackson is prominently involved, and 6) nobody is stopping this group from engaging this issue with the 99.9% of people who are affected by domestic violence but don't happen to play for the NFL. And if the complaint is that the NFL's high profile would allow this group to get its message out more effectively, then the headline should be "Sore Loser Group Mad that They Aren't Beneficiaries of Free Publicity; Throws Temper Tantrum in Response."
Responses:
1. And he's not even sorry... Certain crimes are unforgivable crimes. To be sure, a lot of people haven't forgiven Michael Vick, and if he becomes the starter in New York, I expect those people to get a bit louder.
2. To be sure, Toronto is closer than LA, but wouldn't the dream be In-N-Out DC or NY?
3. A+.
4. That's pretty interesting.
R2R:
1. The teacher glut does raise some questions about the continued need for TFA (though the fact that these laid-off teachers are thus far declining to take jobs in rural areas shows there may still be a place for TFA), but I agree that it's a leadership organization. I don't think Kopp's goal was to push more people into careers as teachers, but rather to expose intelligent young people to the education system, expecting that these young people, who by and large have amazing credentials, would move into leadership positions down the road and affect education positively. I get the cultural tourism bit, but I don't necessarily view that as a negative.
3. It's all about money. All students pay some amount of money that goes into a pot to pay for student organizations (this pot is sometimes supplemented by university funding). Organizations that aren't recognized by the school are ineligible for this funding and not allowed to use university property for organization events.
8. The argument was that ensuring that NFL teams didn't go out of business because nobody came to the games is in the public interest. It's a specious argument for many reasons...
BFTP:
Networking is super important.
Also, I posted this a while ago, but I can't find it now.
B
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
fact and fiction
does it say something about our culture that this guy can be redeemed but ray rice can't? does the racism card come out to play? is conning millions out of millions better than hitting one person who forgives you?
ah this would be the dream
yay uva! - well it's just a weird story
because i love talking/reading about/eating eggs
responses
1. i'm not sure teach for america is really addressing their main problems. teaching inequality seems like adding to the cultural tourism factor of the whole exercise. you are the haves; here are the have nots. also, as the TFA pool gets more diverse, aren't we just diverting promising minority students into the low-paid industry of teaching (particularly those in math fields)? does TFA have any need to exist when there are tons of teachers who are unemployed and being laid off? also Wendy Kopp is quoted as saying it's not a teaching organization (which is weird) but a leadership one. shouldn't they just maneuver to something that america needs - like engineers?
2. i was excited about this but found it not as interesting when i looked at it. it's kinda what i expected. i typically follow mainline church thought.
3. i'm not sure the response is ideal but i guess that's the best they can do. i guess i'm unsure what not recognizing the org does?
4. yes, this seems backwards. although i do think colleges need to educate their students on not leaving their friends to get victimized. 1. don't get black out drunk 2. don't leave your friends in strange environments black out drunk 3. don't rape. also i don't know why we have this mindset that rape victims can't feel like they have any contribution. if you pass out drunk and get robbed, then you would probably blame yourself a bit for being so stupid and it's not big deal. if you pass out drunk and can't consent to sex, that is absolutely no one else's fault but the guy- you are a woman and have every right to pass out drunk and not know what happens. maybe this is just another way of saying women are helpless victims.
5. generational divide was a big thing in bowling alone. apparently our generation sucks.
6. very very sweet.
7. i still prefer coffee shops
8. i read something about this but i doubt it will happen soon. also didn't know it was fcc mandated. what public interest does it serve for the fcc?
9. i like that happy endings girl so i'll probably watch that. selfie was the best of the bunch - not that i've seen any of the rest - and the review of a to z is spot on. made me want to vomit with its annoying cutesyness and i watch new girl and himym and 500 days of summer and wear vintage clothes. and i like ginsberg too! unless it improves a lot, if it doesn't get my demographic, it's a goner.
r2r
8. only spa week or just because you're feeling especially sore? also, you should probably book soon.
bftp
1. rgiii for the win always. he even makes me dislike subway a little less.
even though i posted the solution in 2012, i still haven't quite figured out networking
ah this would be the dream
yay uva! - well it's just a weird story
because i love talking/reading about/eating eggs
responses
1. i'm not sure teach for america is really addressing their main problems. teaching inequality seems like adding to the cultural tourism factor of the whole exercise. you are the haves; here are the have nots. also, as the TFA pool gets more diverse, aren't we just diverting promising minority students into the low-paid industry of teaching (particularly those in math fields)? does TFA have any need to exist when there are tons of teachers who are unemployed and being laid off? also Wendy Kopp is quoted as saying it's not a teaching organization (which is weird) but a leadership one. shouldn't they just maneuver to something that america needs - like engineers?
2. i was excited about this but found it not as interesting when i looked at it. it's kinda what i expected. i typically follow mainline church thought.
3. i'm not sure the response is ideal but i guess that's the best they can do. i guess i'm unsure what not recognizing the org does?
4. yes, this seems backwards. although i do think colleges need to educate their students on not leaving their friends to get victimized. 1. don't get black out drunk 2. don't leave your friends in strange environments black out drunk 3. don't rape. also i don't know why we have this mindset that rape victims can't feel like they have any contribution. if you pass out drunk and get robbed, then you would probably blame yourself a bit for being so stupid and it's not big deal. if you pass out drunk and can't consent to sex, that is absolutely no one else's fault but the guy- you are a woman and have every right to pass out drunk and not know what happens. maybe this is just another way of saying women are helpless victims.
5. generational divide was a big thing in bowling alone. apparently our generation sucks.
6. very very sweet.
7. i still prefer coffee shops
8. i read something about this but i doubt it will happen soon. also didn't know it was fcc mandated. what public interest does it serve for the fcc?
9. i like that happy endings girl so i'll probably watch that. selfie was the best of the bunch - not that i've seen any of the rest - and the review of a to z is spot on. made me want to vomit with its annoying cutesyness and i watch new girl and himym and 500 days of summer and wear vintage clothes. and i like ginsberg too! unless it improves a lot, if it doesn't get my demographic, it's a goner.
r2r
8. only spa week or just because you're feeling especially sore? also, you should probably book soon.
bftp
1. rgiii for the win always. he even makes me dislike subway a little less.
even though i posted the solution in 2012, i still haven't quite figured out networking
Monday, September 15, 2014
Feel better, bunny!
Teach for America is undergoing some changes.
This is an interesting graph comparing religious denomination to where you lie on the political spectrum.
This boggles the mind. What is the point of forming a student Christian organization if you can't even be sure that the officers are Christian? This is how they are responding.
In a nutshell: college administrators fear that if they talk about and address one of the biggest issues that could prevent sexual assault, that people's feelings will get hurt, so they don't.
There may be hope for the next generation after all.
I read this and thought it was nice and refreshing.
Here is how to read in bars.
The FCC is going to vote on repealing the blackout rules for the NFL. (As a refresher, the general rule is that, if your home team doesn't sell out a home game, then the game won't be televised in the home team's area. It's replaced with informercials, not with another game.)
Here's a rundown of some of the fall's new TV shows.
Responses:
1. Donating bone marrow is supposed to be pretty painful. I'll stick to giving my blood to babies.
2. I've had 42.
3. Good for them...?
4. All good ideas.
5. I should probably read some of these to be better at my job.I should probably read some of these to be better at my job.
6. Not sure what Denny's is going for here...
7. They advertise on SYSK. It may be worth a shot.
8. Hmm... Spa Week is a winner.
9. I don't think Apple can control my French press. And I'd like it to stay that way.
R2R:
2. I think they do have a storage unit. That kinda takes away, but they use it to swap out clothes for seasons.
6. And don't forget to punish everyone who disagrees with you.
R2R2R:
6. I guess I viewed offering a job as either "I want you to help me make my business better, and I think you'd really help" (if you are the offeror) or "I think you would do an amazing job in this opportunity" (if you are passing it along). If someone offered me a job, I'd be flattered. Maybe I'm missing something.
BftP (from "Yay lunch!", November 29, 2012):
People should remember how excited they were for RGIII when he first came into the NFL.
B
This is an interesting graph comparing religious denomination to where you lie on the political spectrum.
This boggles the mind. What is the point of forming a student Christian organization if you can't even be sure that the officers are Christian? This is how they are responding.
In a nutshell: college administrators fear that if they talk about and address one of the biggest issues that could prevent sexual assault, that people's feelings will get hurt, so they don't.
There may be hope for the next generation after all.
I read this and thought it was nice and refreshing.
Here is how to read in bars.
The FCC is going to vote on repealing the blackout rules for the NFL. (As a refresher, the general rule is that, if your home team doesn't sell out a home game, then the game won't be televised in the home team's area. It's replaced with informercials, not with another game.)
Here's a rundown of some of the fall's new TV shows.
Responses:
1. Donating bone marrow is supposed to be pretty painful. I'll stick to giving my blood to babies.
2. I've had 42.
3. Good for them...?
4. All good ideas.
5. I should probably read some of these to be better at my job.I should probably read some of these to be better at my job.
6. Not sure what Denny's is going for here...
7. They advertise on SYSK. It may be worth a shot.
8. Hmm... Spa Week is a winner.
9. I don't think Apple can control my French press. And I'd like it to stay that way.
R2R:
2. I think they do have a storage unit. That kinda takes away, but they use it to swap out clothes for seasons.
6. And don't forget to punish everyone who disagrees with you.
R2R2R:
6. I guess I viewed offering a job as either "I want you to help me make my business better, and I think you'd really help" (if you are the offeror) or "I think you would do an amazing job in this opportunity" (if you are passing it along). If someone offered me a job, I'd be flattered. Maybe I'm missing something.
BftP (from "Yay lunch!", November 29, 2012):
People should remember how excited they were for RGIII when he first came into the NFL.
B
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Promiscuous Whales
there's still good in the world. though i feel that now people will be pressured to donate their bone marrow if they're a match.
i've tried about 83 of these (not including the dishes i've never heard of). and i've also had crab rangoon, though i doubt that has real chinese food bona fides.
i just like this headline
because it might need a deep cleaning after the move
seems solid to me
not that you'd go but it's an interesting cocktail party conversation topic
should this be my graze alternative?
if you have some extra time in the fall
ugh it all seems so circle-y but also very cool
responses
1. nyc is definitely snobby top 10. i don't trust this list.
2. but they have tons of stuff. they just happen to have smaller furniture. (maybe they have a storage unit too).
3. seems odd that anyone thought it was really bad and odd that he may have used this as fodder to sell his team. it's not really interesting or crazy enough for either scenario.
4.still reading it but there have been a lot of police abusing power stories lately. i guess on the plus side, i never have drugs or cash or anything worth seizing and i never get stopped by the police.
5. this ISIL group is no joke. (i just read about it because of this article. it's one of the news stories i've been actively avoiding.) but as the article says, no one is really happy that bush is right about this one.
6. i didn't actually read the articles because it didn't seem like that would make sense to. i think your recommendations are spot on. it would be nice if people were a little forward thinking and the tiniest bit compassionate. it's just knee-jerk "punish him so i'll feel better" rather than "what would make this situation better for those most affected and ensure this doesn't happen again in the future?" when we're little we read fairy tales and then as we get older, we're supposed to learn that people are more nuanced than "good" and "evil." somehow we've forgotten that.
r2r
1. i don't know if it's just a lot of engineering nerds but yeah, lack of reading love is sad.
3. i think it's been around? but we never go to glover park. there's plenty of stuff in ....mt vernon sq that i've never heard of. i just don't hang out around there.
5. peng had said this about the chinese chiding their own about weight. while it's never appreciated, the peer pressure probably does prevent more chinese people from being casually 400 pounds. (see eg my sister's friend, who only woke up to the fact that her 450 pound self might be in trouble when she ended up in the hospital. not when she had to move to a single level house because she can't climb stairs, or when she got a special obese parking spot and took a scooter to her office because she couldn't walk.) maybe the chiding people for drinking too much will help some people not get raped and wouldn't that be good enough?
6. it makes sense that offering a job to someone who already has one is going to come off as a slight. i think it can come off as a slight to the unemployed person but that might be overcome by the gratitude.
8. umm i guess i feel bad that she gets beat up for improving herself. but i'm glad that it seems that it's not deterring her? or maybe it will deter her in the future. but at least it's not another police-black person violence story.
bftp
1. i will add it to the routine.
i've tried about 83 of these (not including the dishes i've never heard of). and i've also had crab rangoon, though i doubt that has real chinese food bona fides.
i just like this headline
because it might need a deep cleaning after the move
seems solid to me
not that you'd go but it's an interesting cocktail party conversation topic
should this be my graze alternative?
if you have some extra time in the fall
ugh it all seems so circle-y but also very cool
responses
1. nyc is definitely snobby top 10. i don't trust this list.
2. but they have tons of stuff. they just happen to have smaller furniture. (maybe they have a storage unit too).
3. seems odd that anyone thought it was really bad and odd that he may have used this as fodder to sell his team. it's not really interesting or crazy enough for either scenario.
4.still reading it but there have been a lot of police abusing power stories lately. i guess on the plus side, i never have drugs or cash or anything worth seizing and i never get stopped by the police.
5. this ISIL group is no joke. (i just read about it because of this article. it's one of the news stories i've been actively avoiding.) but as the article says, no one is really happy that bush is right about this one.
6. i didn't actually read the articles because it didn't seem like that would make sense to. i think your recommendations are spot on. it would be nice if people were a little forward thinking and the tiniest bit compassionate. it's just knee-jerk "punish him so i'll feel better" rather than "what would make this situation better for those most affected and ensure this doesn't happen again in the future?" when we're little we read fairy tales and then as we get older, we're supposed to learn that people are more nuanced than "good" and "evil." somehow we've forgotten that.
r2r
1. i don't know if it's just a lot of engineering nerds but yeah, lack of reading love is sad.
3. i think it's been around? but we never go to glover park. there's plenty of stuff in ....mt vernon sq that i've never heard of. i just don't hang out around there.
5. peng had said this about the chinese chiding their own about weight. while it's never appreciated, the peer pressure probably does prevent more chinese people from being casually 400 pounds. (see eg my sister's friend, who only woke up to the fact that her 450 pound self might be in trouble when she ended up in the hospital. not when she had to move to a single level house because she can't climb stairs, or when she got a special obese parking spot and took a scooter to her office because she couldn't walk.) maybe the chiding people for drinking too much will help some people not get raped and wouldn't that be good enough?
6. it makes sense that offering a job to someone who already has one is going to come off as a slight. i think it can come off as a slight to the unemployed person but that might be overcome by the gratitude.
8. umm i guess i feel bad that she gets beat up for improving herself. but i'm glad that it seems that it's not deterring her? or maybe it will deter her in the future. but at least it's not another police-black person violence story.
bftp
1. i will add it to the routine.
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Seriously, Everybody Calm Down
If you could lower your nose long enough to read this link, I'd appreciate it.
Sometimes I wonder if I should do something like this for a few years just to get rid of all my unnecessary belongings.
This is the email that Bruce Levenson sent that is the basis for his selling his stake in the Atlanta Hawks. Do you think he should resign?
The Washington Post is doing a long-form expose on the abuse of civil asset forfeiture. Here are all three installments.
These stories rarely get old for me.
A lot of these articles talk about what the NFL should have done and when it should have done it regarding Ray Rice. Here's what I think the NFL (and more specifically, the Ravens) should have done:
1. Counseling for Rice and his wife, both individually and separately. Counseling should be the first step because they need to know whether this is a marital problem or a violence problem, and the Ravens have a vested interest in keeping one of their star players out of jail so he can play.
2. Paid leave. This is not a problem that will just go away for Rice and his wife - they need to spend real time on it, and they know that. It's hard for professional athletes to make time for things like this during the season. In any case, it couldn't hurt because the Ravens are going to have to pay Rice for the season anyway since he had a contract. And the money is important because a Ray Rice with no job and no prospects is a much more dangerous Ray Rice than one who still has a glimmer of hope at fulfilling his career dreams.
3. A clear pathway to return to the team. I get that the Ravens don't want a player on their team who might end up in jail. I also get that the Ravens want a player who can control himself on the field and in public. But they should take advantage of his strong desire to play in the NFL (anyone who willingly takes the kind of punishment necessary to play in the NFL desperately wants to be there) by giving him a way to return that isn't fraught with uncertainty or PR concerns.
4. Medical testing. There is plenty of evidence that brain damage from concussions has resulted in numerous psychological or physiological symptoms, some of them violent in nature. This is underway for many retired players, but maybe it should start earlier.
5. Make a statement about domestic violence and efforts to help while remaining compassionate. The NFL does a lot for charitable causes, and that's good. The NFL can donate to charity, sponsor PSAs, hold workshops for players and staff, provide counseling, etc. And those efforts would be worthwhile. But I don't understand how not firing Ray Rice means you condone or tolerate domestic violence. The Ravens could have made a statement that they are supporting Rice and his wife while they deal with this ordeal and follow through with 1-4 above, and that while they don't condone what he did and think it deplorable, they want to take steps to make sure that he doesn't do it again. This would be a perfect opportunity to announce Rice's participation in the above-mentioned PSAs and workshops.
Responses:
1. It's crazy that those numbers are so high. That's crazy. I'm going to try to read one new book every month for the rest of the year. (I was on that pace, but the wheels came off.)
2. I can't wait for them to come to NYC.
3. I don't know if this place just didn't exist when I lived in DC, but I've never heard of it until now.
4. Do you remember the TED Talk about how envisioning stress as a positive makes stress good for you? That's how I'm going to think about football. I'll also eat fewer wings maybe.
5. Yes. It's too bad political correctness is now getting in the way of science (see also the obesity epidemic).
6. How does that make sense?
7. I want to go!
8. What is the mix? I experienced this on occasion growing up. I got made fun of for reading a book once. It didn't make me feel bad, though - the idea that doing something so fundamental to becoming a smarter, better person was bad made so little sense to me that I just laughed it off and (mentally) wished them well on their way to jail or an early grave. (I was not an especially compassionate middle schooler.)
R2R2R:
8. But other than all of those many things you named...?
R2R2R2R:
3. They should find talented bears and bring them into the fold! I know some great free agents.
BftP (from "Hey Look! It's North Korea!, January 29, 2013):
This apparently is an exercise we should do every day.
B
Sometimes I wonder if I should do something like this for a few years just to get rid of all my unnecessary belongings.
This is the email that Bruce Levenson sent that is the basis for his selling his stake in the Atlanta Hawks. Do you think he should resign?
The Washington Post is doing a long-form expose on the abuse of civil asset forfeiture. Here are all three installments.
These stories rarely get old for me.
A lot of these articles talk about what the NFL should have done and when it should have done it regarding Ray Rice. Here's what I think the NFL (and more specifically, the Ravens) should have done:
1. Counseling for Rice and his wife, both individually and separately. Counseling should be the first step because they need to know whether this is a marital problem or a violence problem, and the Ravens have a vested interest in keeping one of their star players out of jail so he can play.
2. Paid leave. This is not a problem that will just go away for Rice and his wife - they need to spend real time on it, and they know that. It's hard for professional athletes to make time for things like this during the season. In any case, it couldn't hurt because the Ravens are going to have to pay Rice for the season anyway since he had a contract. And the money is important because a Ray Rice with no job and no prospects is a much more dangerous Ray Rice than one who still has a glimmer of hope at fulfilling his career dreams.
3. A clear pathway to return to the team. I get that the Ravens don't want a player on their team who might end up in jail. I also get that the Ravens want a player who can control himself on the field and in public. But they should take advantage of his strong desire to play in the NFL (anyone who willingly takes the kind of punishment necessary to play in the NFL desperately wants to be there) by giving him a way to return that isn't fraught with uncertainty or PR concerns.
4. Medical testing. There is plenty of evidence that brain damage from concussions has resulted in numerous psychological or physiological symptoms, some of them violent in nature. This is underway for many retired players, but maybe it should start earlier.
5. Make a statement about domestic violence and efforts to help while remaining compassionate. The NFL does a lot for charitable causes, and that's good. The NFL can donate to charity, sponsor PSAs, hold workshops for players and staff, provide counseling, etc. And those efforts would be worthwhile. But I don't understand how not firing Ray Rice means you condone or tolerate domestic violence. The Ravens could have made a statement that they are supporting Rice and his wife while they deal with this ordeal and follow through with 1-4 above, and that while they don't condone what he did and think it deplorable, they want to take steps to make sure that he doesn't do it again. This would be a perfect opportunity to announce Rice's participation in the above-mentioned PSAs and workshops.
Responses:
1. It's crazy that those numbers are so high. That's crazy. I'm going to try to read one new book every month for the rest of the year. (I was on that pace, but the wheels came off.)
2. I can't wait for them to come to NYC.
3. I don't know if this place just didn't exist when I lived in DC, but I've never heard of it until now.
4. Do you remember the TED Talk about how envisioning stress as a positive makes stress good for you? That's how I'm going to think about football. I'll also eat fewer wings maybe.
5. Yes. It's too bad political correctness is now getting in the way of science (see also the obesity epidemic).
6. How does that make sense?
7. I want to go!
8. What is the mix? I experienced this on occasion growing up. I got made fun of for reading a book once. It didn't make me feel bad, though - the idea that doing something so fundamental to becoming a smarter, better person was bad made so little sense to me that I just laughed it off and (mentally) wished them well on their way to jail or an early grave. (I was not an especially compassionate middle schooler.)
R2R2R:
8. But other than all of those many things you named...?
R2R2R2R:
3. They should find talented bears and bring them into the fold! I know some great free agents.
BftP (from "Hey Look! It's North Korea!, January 29, 2013):
This apparently is an exercise we should do every day.
B
Monday, September 8, 2014
the circle of life
look at us - we already stand out
"I was kind of surprised to see that you bought your salt pre-made. It's really not that hard to make your own from sea water, and the taste is far superior. I wish people weren't so quick to take short cuts. If you have time to watch TV, you have time to make your own salt! Priorities!"
let's go eat some chikfila
we could go to mason inn on sunday.
watching the falcons might actually give you a heart attack
hmm if anyone comments on this, then they are surely blaming the victim, no?
intuitively this seems right but it's a little odd.
i've heard of this place but don't think i could stand the heat
i have a lot of feelings towards this article but ultimately don't know what to make of it
responses
1. i agree if his response came off as "i'm such a sad sack now." but i'm pretty sure they're over it and i regard this article is a PSA.
2. we talked about this some already but his specific comments were a little weird because they do imply that the woman should be ready to punch a guy in the nose. seems like such a dated reference. far better to say - hey, don't drink so much that you can't say "no."
3. aww poor bear!
4. as we said, not much of a story, but in the wake of ferguson, every time anything happens between a police officer and a black person, it's practically front page news.
5. i liked these comments from the comments to that article: "Wow, it must be nice to have all this time to sit around at home making food. I have a job so I have to eat nothing but Lean Cuisine dinners, and I don't have time to defrost them."
which is posted just above: "I was kind of surprised to see that you bought your salt pre-made. It's really not that hard to make your own from sea water, and the taste is far superior. I wish people weren't so quick to take short cuts. If you have time to watch TV, you have time to make your own salt! Priorities!"
foodies! so judgmental.
r2r.
2. also blame brangelina bear!
3. true. it always come back to malcolm gladwell or barry glassner.
8. idk. maybe because his name is ben, they met at school, someone lives in manhattan, someone works crazy life-threatening hours, they had their own kitchen nightmares, they need to work on their communication and someone ended up in a hospital. of course, our stuff wasn't all related to each other like it was for them (my hospital visit wasn't because of my job).
r2r2r
3. bears are the best at zipping up dresses for sure but what about the bunnies who don't have bears? should they have to walk around with open dresses?
5. nothing wrong with honing your espresso skills on your own machine.
blasts from the past
I posted this in one of our first year's posts but have forgotten about it. apparently i read psychology today even way back then.
also, this was our first post and this was our second
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Everybody Calm Down
People need thicker skin. I'm not saying that the stranger was right to ask, and I'm not saying that this isn't somehow evidence of how our society is broken, but our response to situations like these has to be better than this.
The fact that even this remark is getting criticism tells me that some feminists are far more interested in righteous indignation and theory than practical, real solutions to difficult problems.
Poor bear - he was probably just embarrassed.
I'm guessing we're going to get a rash of these stories, each successive one being less and less of a story. I think the lesson I would want to teach my kids here isn't that the police are racist, but that, while you should be careful when dealing with the police, you should trust that, by treating them with respect and following their lawful orders (and everything about this situation was completely lawful), you will get a reasonable outcome (which is exactly what seemed to happen here - the officer even apologized).
Let's make fun of more commenters! (This time, you have to remember to join me.)
Responses:
1. That is a good list.
2. Bears aren't supposed to outshine bunny on her birthday... I blame China!
3. #3 and #4 are the near-miss theory from David & Goliath.
4. That makes too much sense. I don't understand how people just let relationships happen to them.
5. Through trial and error anyway.
6. Nobody is going to win this argument, but thanks for the hat tip. :)
7. The freezer idea is pretty smart. When I used to cook, I threw away tomato paste regularly.
8. That's a sweet article. I'm glad it worked out in the end. Why do you think it's the story of us almost?
R2R:
1. Every chef should know that people are incredibly subjective and opinionated about food. I get why a chef would want to control the experience, and I definitely understand if a restaurant declined to offer ketchup by simply not having it in the restaurant, but I don't understand why emotions have gotten to this point.
2. *afraid to say anything*
3. That's what bears are for. :(
5. I try to think flexibly about my skills. I think we'll have lawyers for a while, but an industry could always change and make your skillset obsolete. If the securities laws or tort law changes dramatically, we would do well to have something to offer that is broader than our specific skills (e.g. our general intelligence or adaptability). Also, maybe this is why I want an espresso machine...
B
The fact that even this remark is getting criticism tells me that some feminists are far more interested in righteous indignation and theory than practical, real solutions to difficult problems.
Poor bear - he was probably just embarrassed.
I'm guessing we're going to get a rash of these stories, each successive one being less and less of a story. I think the lesson I would want to teach my kids here isn't that the police are racist, but that, while you should be careful when dealing with the police, you should trust that, by treating them with respect and following their lawful orders (and everything about this situation was completely lawful), you will get a reasonable outcome (which is exactly what seemed to happen here - the officer even apologized).
Let's make fun of more commenters! (This time, you have to remember to join me.)
Responses:
1. That is a good list.
2. Bears aren't supposed to outshine bunny on her birthday... I blame China!
3. #3 and #4 are the near-miss theory from David & Goliath.
4. That makes too much sense. I don't understand how people just let relationships happen to them.
5. Through trial and error anyway.
6. Nobody is going to win this argument, but thanks for the hat tip. :)
7. The freezer idea is pretty smart. When I used to cook, I threw away tomato paste regularly.
8. That's a sweet article. I'm glad it worked out in the end. Why do you think it's the story of us almost?
R2R:
1. Every chef should know that people are incredibly subjective and opinionated about food. I get why a chef would want to control the experience, and I definitely understand if a restaurant declined to offer ketchup by simply not having it in the restaurant, but I don't understand why emotions have gotten to this point.
2. *afraid to say anything*
3. That's what bears are for. :(
5. I try to think flexibly about my skills. I think we'll have lawyers for a while, but an industry could always change and make your skillset obsolete. If the securities laws or tort law changes dramatically, we would do well to have something to offer that is broader than our specific skills (e.g. our general intelligence or adaptability). Also, maybe this is why I want an espresso machine...
B
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
belated birthday edition
i love this list
no one celebrates their aug 23 birthday quite like bao bao, i guess this means that i'm never going to the zoo on my birthday.
this really did restore my faith in humanity so i guess it's not upworthy
this might be an addendum to that study that said big weddings led to happier couples
you probably know all this by heart now
i believe you already called this
i just threw away another can of tomato paste 2 weeks ago
this is the story of us almost
responses
1. mixed feelings about this. i guess it comes down to - which is more important - the chef's right to serve what they want or the customer's desire to have what they want? The customer can always walk out I guess. It's like art - if you don't like it, you can leave. The artist will not change it for you to like it.
2. One stupid woman complaining. It's basically the definition of feminism.
3. I want all of these but more important than the one handed zipper is some way to zip your dress up by yourself if you don't have long arms (though I do, it would still be nice to make it easier).
4. and this is why you should run for office.
5. i wonder if i'd get hired to run an espresso machine. there are definitely people more qualified. but i think our jobs are safe for now? maybe no one's job is truly safe.
no one celebrates their aug 23 birthday quite like bao bao, i guess this means that i'm never going to the zoo on my birthday.
this really did restore my faith in humanity so i guess it's not upworthy
this might be an addendum to that study that said big weddings led to happier couples
you probably know all this by heart now
i believe you already called this
i just threw away another can of tomato paste 2 weeks ago
this is the story of us almost
responses
1. mixed feelings about this. i guess it comes down to - which is more important - the chef's right to serve what they want or the customer's desire to have what they want? The customer can always walk out I guess. It's like art - if you don't like it, you can leave. The artist will not change it for you to like it.
2. One stupid woman complaining. It's basically the definition of feminism.
3. I want all of these but more important than the one handed zipper is some way to zip your dress up by yourself if you don't have long arms (though I do, it would still be nice to make it easier).
4. and this is why you should run for office.
5. i wonder if i'd get hired to run an espresso machine. there are definitely people more qualified. but i think our jobs are safe for now? maybe no one's job is truly safe.
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